No Bachelorette Party??

I'm the planner in my group, too, and none of my BMs have any idea of what is in my area/what's convenient. I know they want to have one for me, but it wouldn't be easy for them to plan, so I'll likely make the arrangements on my own for a one night thing. My aunt is having a shower for me so I'm pairing the two events together. It'll likely be something fairly low key since I know no one's budget is huge. Either a wine trolley, or dinner out and a wine bar/lounge. If everyone is on board to celebrate you but just isn't good with organization and logistics, I see no problem with making some plans for it yourself.

@Elyse- I've lived in Philly for almost 8years so I know it is a city of fun! And the options are quite endless with what kind of party you want to have. I haven't ventured out to Manayunk too much so I will have to look into that! Thanks!

I saw a bach party out in Old City a couple weeks ago. The girls were headed down to the Race Street Pier to take photos, they were doing that before hitting up some bars. Old City is nice because it's very walkable, and you don't necessarily have to do the clubbing thing if you don't want to. Off the top of my head, a fun day could be: facial/ massage/ whathaveyou at Spa Terme di Aroma, dinner at Fork (but if you can get a reservation at Zahav, DO IT), drinks at Independence Beer Garden.

This is horrible. Maybe you can do a spa day and do dinner. If they dont want to get it together and realize its NOT about them, but about you then dont force them. Plan a spa day and dinner and have them pay for themselves and who ever shows fine. But i wouldn't ask or beg any of them sorry lazy females to do anything else. Now you can see who your REAL friends are!

I'm not having one. I never had one before either... I feel that this time, eh.. not thrilled. If my daughter and my sister decide to do something, I'll go along with it, but I already can say I hope its not clubbing, or hanging out at a bar. Call me a boring homebody. I'd rather get a massage and read a book with a bottle of wine. LOL

No bach party planned for me either, my MOH is my 14 year old daughter so I can totally understand that, How ever my daughters God Mother offered to throw me a Shower! Which I think is great. She recruited my mom, and oh man is my mom going to town with this thing. lol She is just very excited. All I know is the date, time, and place.

On the other hand, the weekend after my shower my FH is going on his bach weekend to S. Lake Tahoe with his BM (brother) and 2 friends for a Golfing Weekend (FH is a huge golfer, at least 2x a week he golfs). I am kind of jealous. FH Best Man rented a huge beautiful 6,000 sqf home in TAHOE! And if they hit up the Casinos, I hope FH sits in on a Poker Game, when he does he comes out 1st or 2nd, it usually pays for the trip. All in All I really hope FH has a good time, he didn't want a bach party.

I say plan it yourself if you really want one. It kind of suck s to have to do that but at least you will get one. I took over my friend's bachelorette party a few weeks ago when I realized she was planning and coordinating her own. I am not in her wedding party, but we were like sisters growing up and the big sister in me couldn't let her plan and pay for her own party.

Perhaps, you could select several ideas and send them to your BP to see who would be interested? Do you have other close friends who would be willing to pitch in? I ask because I don't have a BP, so one of my cousins and a close friend of mine got together and took me out for a day & night on the town. It was pretty low key but a ton of fun.

@Ms.Beach&Boats- Thats so great your mom and your daughters God Mother are throwing you a shower! My mom went crazy for mine and like I said, if she hadn't, I know a shower either wouldn't have happened or wouldn't have been nearly as beautiful. I was so thankful for what she did. I hope you enjoy yours!!

@Hannah- You are truly a great friend to step in and take over a friends bachelorette party even when your not a BM. She is lucky to have you! Your suggestion of picking some ideas and sending them out to the BP is probably what I'm going to do. I hope you did enjoy your night out, sometimes a low key night out with some close friends is all you really need.

Yeah, I am not having a bridal shower or bachelorette party. I really want at least one of the 2 but I guess I just have to deal with it.

I didn't have a shower, but that was by my choice, as my mother had said she would throw one for me. I also don't think any of my BM are planning a bachelorette party either, which does make me kind of sad. I don't really feel like I should be the one to plan it, so I'm to the point of if it happens it happens and if it doesn't it doesn't.