No Bachelor Party For My FH :(

My FH only has one weekend off a month so there are only a few more opportunities to do it before our wedding. Would it be rude of me to ask the BM if he is planning anything? I don't really ever see him, nor do I have his number. I could ask my FH for it but then it is obvious that he knows I’m asking others about the party. I could also reach out to him through his wife who I am friends with on Facebook. Or I can contact the other guys I know a little better. I know not everyone is entitled to this party but I feel bad for him. Would it be rude to bring it up? What would you guys do?

I'd just check with his wife since you're friends with her. I don't think there's anything wrong in asking once. If not, maybe invite his GMs over for beer and to grill out on one of his off days if he's not? It wouldn't be a bach party, but I'd bet he'd appreciate you doing that

No way. I'd stay out of it. It's between him and his friends. The furthest I would go is if nothing has happened when his last night off is approaching, I'd suggest that he plan a guys night out.

You could ask your FH for his number (tell him that you need the BM number for a "call" sheet for the wedding. You'd probably need it eventually anyways). Then, text the BM and say something like "Hi! I was trying to figure out our calendar for up until the wedding. Did you guys have anything planned for a bachelor party? And if so, when is it so I can make sure we don't schedule anything that weekend. Thanks!"

Ok I know the usual advice is to stay far, far away from this issue, but I totally did not. H's best man and best friend are kinda, um, clueless when it comes to this whole wedding thing. When it was about 3 months before the wedding and neither had stepped up, I sent them both a text that basically said: "Hey! Our weekends are getting full before the wedding and I was wondering if either of you were planning a bachelor party for Matt. It doesn't have to be anything big, but I know he would love a day of golfing and grilling out with you guys. You can have it at our house if you want - just let me know what weekend to clear out. Thanks!"

His best man had no idea that planning a bachelor party was on him, he genuinely thought the groom handled it all. So I normally advise to stay out of these issues but it helped for us.

They may still have one. men are very last minute and arent really that good at planning. probably three weeks before the wedding a text will go out saying bachelor party for john meet up at this bar at 8pm and we'll take if from there. BOOM bach party lol.

Definitely ask. I had to ask the best man this past weekend about it and he was like "yeah, I guess I should start planning soon." Guys tend to leave everything to the last minute.