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Deb, on February 19, 2020 at 10:42 AM

I see a lot of posts about not letting guests suffer because of a few Alcoholics in the family. I am the alcoholic...sober 4yrs in March. I am choosing not to have alcohol primarily because of cost, but also I don't have a lot of years of sobriety so I don't want/need the temptation especially at my own expense.... That's just insanity.
It doesn't seem right to criticize others for not providing alcohol when what they are doing is actually a very thoughtful and silent gesture to the family members they love and wish to be happy and healthy.

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Savvy September 2020
Joy · on February 19, 2020 at 4:17 PM
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We are having an open bar at our wedding. Having said that, IT’S YOUR WEDDING. Don’t listen to critics. If they don’t come because of the choices you make for YOUR day, then frankly they don’t deserve to celebrate with you. (We have been to several weddings without alcohol. We really didn’t even notice.)

Congrats on your big day!
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Deb · on February 20, 2020 at 2:16 AM
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Amazing feedback! Thanks so much.
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Deb · on February 20, 2020 at 2:18 AM
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Thank you so much!!!
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Savvy November 2020
Agarb · on March 3, 2020 at 12:20 PM
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Congrats on your sobriety, that's amazing! Especially if it somewhat common knowledge that you are in recovery, I don't think your guests should be too surprised (or bothered) by this.
Keep in mind, there's usually the one cousin or friend (you know the one ) who may have a few drinks beforehand or bring a flask, so maybe mentally prepare yourself for if that is to happen!
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VIP September 2020
Molly · on March 4, 2020 at 1:03 PM
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Congrats on your sobriety! I have seen vendors at wedding shows offering espresso bars, which seems like a very fun idea and they were much cheaper than a bar. If you are open to it you could do an earlier wedding and serve breakfast food. Then people wouldn't really expect alcohol. Plus you would save a nice chunk of change on catering!
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VIP June 2019
MIWM · on March 7, 2020 at 5:00 PM
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Just have Mocktails at your wedding.
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Master October 2020
Margaret · on March 7, 2020 at 8:52 PM
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My FH and I are non alcoholics (he’s in recovery), we didn’t want alcohol at our wedding initially, but our brunch (reception) includes a mimosa bar and bloody Mary bar. My FH didn’t want his family to go without because of him. Having a brunch reception, somehow made it that much easier, limited alcohol and limited time to consume and already included in the pp price.

I’m with you, people shouldn’t criticize others for their decisions. Sadly we live in a world where people just want to ridicule each other for their decisions because they don’t agree with theirs.
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