Night before

I am doing this. Ive mentioned to all my girls but I am not expecting them to stay. If they don't, ill just get my mom to stay with me. Itll be a nice last night with her.

I don’t think it would be rude! Just give them the option. I’ve been thinking about doing this as well.

Agree with the general consensus- it’s not at all rude to ask, but don’t make it mandatory and don’t ask anyone to chip in for the room if they do say yes.
I’m sure at least one of your BMs will say yes!

I don’t think you should feel bad at all about asking your bridesmaids if they want to do that! I personally love waking up next to my FH (and even kind of have mild separation anxiety when we are apart for too long, lol), but I still think it would be really fun to spend the night with one of my good friends the night before her wedding!! It’s like when we were young and had sleepovers, hehe.

But you could totally also just spend the night with your FH if that would be better for you! Don’t worry about that tradition if it’s not your thing. I’ll probably just stay the night with my FH, or maybe my family.

I asked my MOH to stay with me the night before the wedding and she was more than happy to do so. I definitely don’t think it’s rude to ask.

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Agreed, I couldn't think of a way to word it without making people feel obligated. I like your wording much better!

My FH was against the idea of us spending the night apart the night before the wedding so we both can get good sleep. We will separate first thing in the morning to get ready.

Thank you everyone, I've gotten some really good ideas from this thread!

Me and my bridesmaids are making a night of it. The groom and groomsmen are doing the same. We've already planned the evening. My MOH and BM are very excited.

I think it would depend on how you feel and how you would like to spend the night before the wedding. Just enjoy it whatever you decide.

You don't have to spend the night before apart from your fh just because it's what you think you ought to be doing. I spent the night before with my fh. We sleep better together in the same bed and it was just nice to spend the last night ever as unmarried together.

I just texted them all and said “H is spending the night before at best man’s house so they can go out drinking. I’ve got extra space if you guys want to stay here”. They all stayed at my house. I went and picked them up so that they would only have one car at the venue because their dates were all meeting them there.

It's not rude to ask, but she doesn't have to say yes and it is not rude if she says no. You aregoing to be anxious no matter what. It's the night before your wedding !

I say just stay with FH. That tradition is stupid and I’m assuming no one is a virgin here. No surprises. Just do what makes you feel best. A girl sleepover is so immature.

View Quoted Comment How is it immature to spend the night with your friends? Do you never go away with just your girlfriends? It’s not like we sat in the living room in sleeping bags and had a pillow fight. I have guest rooms and everyone had a place to sleep.

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No, I haven’t gone away with just my girlfriends in years. Probably because we’re all adults. I think If you’re about to get married you need to stop relying on girls to hold your hand through stressful times. That’s your husbands job now.

View Quoted Comment Being an adult doesn’t really have anything to do with it. I’m an adult, I’m married, I have two children, and I still enjoy going away with just my girlfriends for the night or the weekend. I exist socially outside of being my husband’s wife so I don’t really see how getting married has anything to do with it.

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I guess I’m just lucky that my FH and I prefer each other’s company to anybody else’s. I personally feel that spending the night before together is super romantic. But hey, you do you.

I'm staying at the hotel we booked for guest the night before regardless. I did invite the BMs to stay with me if they choose. All but one are local, so I dunno if they will stay or not. I figured after the rehearsal dinner we could just go have girl time - even if it just me and the one OOT BM! FH and the groomsmen are getting the house and will drive down to our end of town the afternoon of the wedding.

All of my bridesmaids are out of town and traveling in/staying at hotels with their significant others. But, my MOH is ditching her boyfriend to stay with me the night before the wedding while FH stays at his best man's house. We're going to do a girls night after the rehearsal dinner, with a face mask that I can trust and drinking plenty of water haha. The rest of my bridesmaids will likely stay too.

Ask your girls if they would stay with you! They might decline, but that's ok. If they decline, maybe you can stay with your mom? Or another close friend or family member?

You're not alone in feeling anxiety about staying by yourself. My mind would be racing and I would a nervous wreck if I didn't have sometime to stay with me.

Someone say "Pajama Party!" That's what I'm doing the night before our wedding. After rehearsal dinner, all guys go to hotel... all girls go to the house where we will be getting ready. It also will make it easy for stress of everyone being there on time for the arrival of the videogragher and photographer.