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Master May 2018

Night before the wedding if you already live together

A.Magill.Since.May, on March 25, 2017 at 12:36 PM

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On mobile; Couldn't Search. If you already live with your FS, what are your plans for right before the wedding?? We want to do the traditional superstitious thing of not seeing each other on the wedding day before the ceremony. My family & friends will have just come into town. I'm toying with the...

On mobile; Couldn't Search. If you already live with your FS, what are your plans for right before the wedding?? We want to do the traditional superstitious thing of not seeing each other on the wedding day before the ceremony. My family & friends will have just come into town. I'm toying with the idea of both of us leaving the Rehearsal dinner with our respective family/ bridal party to bond and stay with them, but FH and I both sleep badly apart. Also: is anyone planning on abstaining for any period of time before the wedding? I've heard you shouldn't have sex the night before the wedding (other than tradition, Idk why), or even for a week or weeks. What do you think? What's your plan? ETA:words are hard

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  • Diandra
    Super April 2017
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    I'm staying at the house and he is going to a hotel

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  • Leah
    VIP July 2017
    Leah ·
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    I'll probably be staying at my parents house, he'll be staying in our hotel room.

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  • Sylphier
    Super June 2017
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    FH is going to stay with his parents, and my son will stay there also. I'm staying at our house and all my bridesmaids will stay with me. I doubt I'll be able to sleep due to nerves so it'll be good to have my girls with me.

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  • Mrs. B
    VIP March 2017
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    We stayed together in our hotel room

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  • janz
    Devoted September 2017
    janz ·
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    We have lived together for 10 years, so we will be going back to our house together and both staying there like normal, we might even have sex, who knows, we're crazy like that.

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  • hannahdee
    Super June 2018
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    I think I'll stay at my parents/my old house the night before since we live like 10 mins away

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  • Chelsea
    VIP September 2017
    Chelsea ·
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    I am staying at the venue the night before since I already have the room rented to get ready in for the following day. He will stay at the house and take care of the dogs.

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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
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    @janz, exactly. I don't understand the idea that it's special or fun to stay apart from the person you're about to marry. Creating anxiety for no reason.

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  • C&N
    Super October 2017
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    We're staying together at the same hotel where we will spend the night after the wedding. Originally we talked about being apart, but I really wanted to wake up next to him and have a few minutes of peace before going our separate ways until the ceremony. I know the day will be hectic and I just really want to start it off with a few moments together.

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  • JanissC.
    Super April 2018
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    We are staying at a hotel near the venue. I thought of getting two separate rooms, but I know that in the middle of the night I will crawl to his room. He is the one that knows how to comfort me and calm me when I am stressed. So, we will be staying together.

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  • FutureMrsComo
    Super October 2018
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    I think we will stay together then he will get up and leave early the morning of. We won't abstain bc I don't want sex on my wedding night to last for only 15 seconds.

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  • ambrok
    Master October 2017
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    Our venue is a hotel, so we plan on getting 2 rooms there so the FH/GM can get ready in one the following morning & I want my BM to bunk with me the night before...make sure they get there on time :o It can be challenge for my girls : )

    We have OOT folks staying at our home, so we don't want to deal with sleeping there/getting ready & tidying up before their arrival :o

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  • ambrok
    Master October 2017
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    As for sex...it's a personal choice obviously/not right or wrong. I have only heard of one couple not seeing each other for the full week before their wedding (I believe the FH stayed with a friend).

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  • FutureMrsPaldino
    Super October 2017
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    I will be staying with my bridesmaids at the venue (it's a bed and breakfast). FH will be staying with his groomsmen at a hotel in the next town over.

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  • Tania
    Devoted June 2017
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    I am staying at my parents house and FH at our house with his family that is coming from out of town

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  • Deb
    Super June 2017
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    We each go a villa at the venue and then the grand suite for the wedding night.

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  • MrsSki
    Master April 2017
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    He's staying in the hotel with his family and I'll be at my parents house after our rehearsal dinner. I honestly don't expect to sleep that well regardless of whether he's there or not! We won't see each other until I walk down the aisle

    No plans for abstaining other than the night before since we won't be together. I mean, if you have already tasted the goods, what's the point in holding back? Sex is a great stress reliever!

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  • FMP
    VIP October 2017
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    I'm staying at a hotel next to the venue and he is staying at the house... I'm not really superstitious but I think being apart for some time builds the excitement. The next time he'll see me I will be in my dress.

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  • Lauren
    VIP October 2017
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    We are staying at a hotel close to venue the night before the wedding but in separate rooms! I can hang with the girls and he can relax with the guys!

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  • Natalie<3Chris
    Super September 2017
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    I'm kicking FH out the week before so my mom and sister can stay with me at our house. He is staying at his parents house three houses down lol. The wedding night we will probably get a hotel close to the venue for da sexy times.

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