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MrsBrown13
Expert July 2013

Night before my wedding and all I'm doing is crying.

MrsBrown13, on July 19, 2013 at 9:38 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 16

The one day I needed my mom to be here to help me she wasn't. She claimed she couldn't get to my house without my sister (who had to work) reading the directions from the GPS to her. After telling her that maybe she should just come early Saturday morning she threw a fit and started telling everyone that I was being a bridezilla and that I didn't her to spend the night. I needed her here this morning to help me with last minute things. Her waiting til 7pm when my sister got home then gettting here at 8pm would have been hectic seeing as how I live near Wrigleyfield and Pearl Jam is playing there tonight. I never said she couldn't come! All I offered was a suggestion because she hates driving in downtown Chicago. So i'm the bad guy and i'm here by myself with all 3 kids. FH already checked into his hotel with his mom and I didn't want them to lose their special time alone. And printer wont work so i don't have programs. I'm dreading tomorrow.

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Latest activity by Azbride, on July 20, 2013 at 3:42 PM
  • Lillian
    VIP November 2013
    Lillian ·
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    Just breathe......relax...... can you call one of your BMs? Maybe they can help you or email the programs to someone else and they can print them out for you? Don't worry, it will all work out and your wedding day tomorrow will be amazing!

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  • Mrs. A
    VIP November 2013
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    All that matters is that ur marrying the one u love. Why don't u do a sleepover in ur room with ur kids? That might be gun and relaxing for all of u

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  • Carmen
    Devoted September 2013
    Carmen ·
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    Hey Nena I'm in Chicago, if you need anything done for you big day let me know. I'm in the South burbs but I have no problem helping a fellow bride. Fyi I'm also a planner

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  • Kimberly
    Expert August 2013
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    Just relax and breath and everything will always works out. don't allow nothing to steal this joy from you. Can you have kinko's r Office Depot to print them in the am...

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  • Kimberly
    Expert August 2013
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    Carmen that was so sweet

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  • DlovesD
    Master June 2014
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    I'm so sorry you are having a rough night! Does FH know how upset you are? Call up a bridesmaid and tell them to get to your house STAT!

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  • Mrs V (Roe)
    Master August 2013
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    Carmen you are awesome for offering assistance.

    Nena I know the most important thing is that you will be marrying the love of your life tomorrow, but it hurts that your mom isn't being as supportive as she should. People can only be who they are and as much as we'd like to, we can't make them do what they should or is right. You can't control that The only thing we have control over is how we react and how we let their actions affect us. Pain is pain and hurt is hurt and just saying to let it go doesn't make it go away. But if you don't let go of your expectations of your mother, your beautiful day will forever be marred by her inattentiveness. You want it to be about the love he has for you and you for him. As suggested, call one of y our bridesmaids or a close friend or take Carmen up on her offer. It's your mother's loss. Big cyber hugs to you and God Bless tomorrow.

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  • aspiecat
    Expert November 2013
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    Sorry to hear you're so stressed just as you shouldn't be!

    As the others have said, just take a deep breath, look at getting the programmes printed off for you, and spend that quality time spoiling yourself and your kids with a takeaway or something naughty hehe.

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  • MrsBrown13
    Expert July 2013
    MrsBrown13 ·
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    Thank you everyone so much and Carmen you are awesome! I just said screw this shit and me and my kids are in my bed watching Mickey mouse clubhouse. You guys are right. All that matters is I'm marrying the one I love.

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  • Mrs. A
    VIP November 2013
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    I akways get that hotdog song stuck in my head after babysitting... hotdog hotdog hot diggity do! Good luck and enjoy tomorrow!

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  • Carmen
    Devoted September 2013
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    Your Welcome Nena its definitely not a problem. I know how it feels for ppl to flake on u at the last minute

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  • MrsShelton071213
    VIP July 2013
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    Just relax it is your last night of stressing over this stuff...believe me I was like you the night before but the following night it all paid off. After the wedding I was like was I really stressing about A and B....enjoy your last night before the big day!!

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  • Cheetah2B
    Master June 2014
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    @Jennifer S. damn you, woman!!!

    Now I have managed to implant "ohhh too-oodles" in my head.

    Nena, I'm sorry girl :-/ my mom is the same way, but at least she's 4 hours away, and wouldn't care if she helped or not. Call up a maid or friend...hell, call Pizza Hut or little Caesars :-P lol!!!

    Don't stress, it'll all work out just fine!!!

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  • Z
    Master May 2012
    Zoe ·
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    As everyone has said-- focus on your marriage-- programs won't make you any more married. Do NOT let your mother ruin this for you! Have fun!

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  • Marissa M.
    Super August 2013
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    Just know that those little lovies with you tonight could care less about programs or other bumps in the road. They get to see their momma as the most beautiful bride in the world marrying her soul mate! Good luck and much love from your WW friends!!

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  • Azbride
    Super November 2013
    Azbride ·
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    Every day I read posts here and in the midst of all the drama and strange bms and in law issues I see someone like Carmen make a very unselfish offer like she did here. I think the support we get here at WW is the most beneficial that I have had since starting my planning.

    My MOH and MOB are both out of state and unable to do very much to help me. My FSIL/BM is here but she has been extremely busy with her work and a family issue so I hate to ask much of her either. FH offers to help but he loses interest in the planning of stuff really quickly lol. So I do understand how left out you can feel at times. I am glad you spent the night with your kids and hope today is your most wonderful day of all.

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