nickname on a shower/wedding invite?

If you normally go by Jessie, then put Jessie. Especially if you feel that Jessica isn't you! At least on the wedding invitation.

FH's sister used Jessi on her invitation, and her real name is Jessica. I say go for it!

Thanks, ladies! i realize that it seems small in the grand scheme of things. i love getting people's feedback on this sort of thing.

I am having the same debate. My full name is Catherine but I have never gone by that my entire life. I have always gone by Catie. I would think for the shower (which is less formal) you should def go by Jessie. The invitation I'm not sure.

Go with what people know you by-- it'll save your friends a moment of, "Jessica Who? Do I even know... oh! *Jessie*1"

Go with Jessie. We also used the (shortened) name my FIL has always used instead of his full.

Not the same situation, but this was funny. When we asked for addresses to send invites, we asked a lady for her real name - everyone calls her Tiny. Well, she asked that we addressed the invite to Mrs. Tiny (whatever her last name is)

As long as your legal name is on important documents, I am sure you can call yourself whatever you want.

VC - Mrs. Tiny! that's great.

My name is Jessica and everyone knows me as Jessie. I put jessica

On all my wedding invitations and STD's I used people's "casual" names. My friend TJ was TJ, not Theodore.

Not sure where this puts me on the etiquette scale, but it seemed really silly to put people on my invitation on a semi-formal event as their full name. I'm not knocking anyone who does it, but it just didn't seem right to me.

For older folks we tended to stay traditional, but other than that, whatever you normally go by is what I addressed you as.

ETA: Whatever you normally call yourself is what I would use.

I get it. People constantly ask me why I don't go by Jennifer (like professionally, for example). Uh, well, because it's Jenny on my birth certificate, so...lol!

On the other hand, my guy is a Richard. Not a Rich or a Rick or anything. So maybe we balance out?

Jenny, I'd go by Jessie at work if I felt like it was professional enough. Some people call me Jessica. Mostly I call myself/sign off on emails as Jess, which doesn't feel as formal/stiff as Jessica.

My name is Michelle but my family calls me Shelley. I remember on my like 12th birthday I left an invitation to my birthday party in a really close family friends mailbox. The invitation said Michelle. Well she didn't come so my mom called her mom just to make sure everything was okay and it turns out she didn't know who Michelle was! I go by Michelle now so I'll be using that but I think if you go by something exclusively, you should use that.

A totally different story, my last name is Sampson. My dad goes my Sammy which is shortened from our last name. My cousin got married at my parents house and when his wife made the invitations, she wanted to make them formal so wrote Samuel on them, thinking that's what Sammy was really short for. We didn't want to make her feel bad so we were able to keep the secret that his name was Robert for a couple of months

Lol funny you bring this up. Fh and I sent out std and his aunt did not know who it was for. With us fh real name is Donald, on fb it's don but everyone calls him DJ. std we put don but on our invites I put our full names. I think for showers and std and that sort of stuff the nicknames are Ok but I like seeing the full name on the invites.

I put my nickname on my STD and full name on the invites. I've also gone by my nickname as long as I can remember (even professionally) and often don't even answer to my full name.

Jessie, for sure! It helps set the casual tone. Also, if you've always used it, it just makes sense.

My full name is Kaitlyn but everything including our formal invite says kait.... I have never ever gone by my full name so even tho its more formal it just didn't seem right to me

I was making our STD today and put Jacqueline first...quickly changed to Jackie. Go with the nickname!

Well, it's really up to you, but many, many of my brides and grooms go by nicknames. For the kind of ceremonies I do, it seems appropriate. Some will switch to their formal names for the vows and rings.

I've decided that I'm going to do Jessie on my shower invite (or ask my MOH to put Jessie). Still figuring out what I'd like for the invitations. Thanks for the input, ladies!