Nicely saying "No your kids aren't invited"

ALC, I don't "expect" everyone to come. I feel it's my responsibility to invite them, because they're family or a close friend and those were the guidelines of our guest list. It's their responsibility to RSVP one of two ways: yes or no. I am not responsible for their kids and I certainly understand if some can't make it because of childcare. There will be no hard feelings on my part. However, I do believe it's very presumptuous to assume we are inviting your kids when it's addressed to Mr and Mrs Joe Smith with no mention of kids.

Declines? We invited 250 guests, age 21 and up, and 225 attended. The wedding was also held on the Sunday night, of a 3-day summer holiday weekend.

Putting anything on invites about who is not invited is really rude.

# of adults attending on the RSVP card

I think your response was great. You have to be polite but firm about it, and don't make exceptions. Ultimately, yes there will be some people who can't/won't attend because their children aren't invited, especially OOT guests. However, many people will still attend and happily leave their kids with a babysitter for a few hours!

Oh boy, currently going through this. 1. I wrote on the invites, Adults Only as it is a Friday evening reception and 2. I did address the envelopes specifically as to whom was invited. BUT that has not stopped family members to reach out to me and ask if they can bring their children. I understand as half of my guest list are oot guests as well. I've had to as kindly as I can put it but say no to them but those who want to really attend will make a way.

We are doing E photos in a few weeks so will send out our STDs then. I already made our WW site and it says on there "18 and over". I've already had 3 family members text me asking if their children are invited. It's awkward, but I'm glad they are asking instead of assuming. I have politely said "unfortunately not. We are doing adults only, both of our families are way too big to accomodate all the children". Everyone has been okay with it so far and I've even had two uncles say they were happy for a child free evening.

I put the number of reserved seats on our RSVP, and addressed by name. But I still got a bunch of calls asking about kids. We were just firm and straight forward. we got a lot of "well then we're not coming" responses expecting us to make an exception but we just replied with " That sucks but we understand"