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Dedicated September 2017

Nice Way to Say You're NOT Invited

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Rahel613, on June 19, 2017 at 4:48 PM

Hi everyone. In December my dad was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer. Since then he has not worked, and my mom is now on a leave of absence to help take care of him. Originally my parents were going to help with the wedding expenses, and now they've had to limit how much they can donate, which I'm fine with. Since our budget is smaller, we are having a smaller ceremony and reception. And I'm even okay with this because I really don't like that many people lol. But it seems like since the engagement all these random folks from way back when keep popping up asking me about their invites. The jerk that I am I want to be say "wtf would I invite you to my wedding when I haven't seen you since 1999!" Lol. So what is the polite way to say you can't come without having being an a-hole?

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Master March 2018
Orchids · on June 19, 2017 at 5:44 PM
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Yeah, I feel like if you make excuses people will try to get around them. "I'm like family!" "I'll pay for my plate!" So I just say we're keeping it small and leave it at that. I'm known for being pretty blunt and holding my ground though, so most people have dropped the subject quickly.
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Dedicated September 2017
Rahel613 · on June 19, 2017 at 5:46 PM
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@Love Great point!
@Meet we purposely choose Labor Day weekend so less people would come lol! We can be terrible together!
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TiffanyGomez2018 · on June 19, 2017 at 7:07 PM
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I've had so many of the "why didn't I get an invite??" From people who I haven't seen in years or who I work with but aren't really close to. I just tell them "it's a super small venue and while I wanted to invite everyone initially, we got double booked on the larger venue, causing us to have to cut the guest list. Sorry!"
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Savvy September 2017
Bambi · on June 19, 2017 at 7:18 PM
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We are having a very small wedding and reception as well. I've joked with some family and my FH if asked, I'm going to just say "you know I hate people - why are you asking about an invite?" Granted I wouldn't actually say it...well, maybe I would.
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Expert September 2017
MsMac · on June 19, 2017 at 10:02 PM
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FH's entire family is something like 600-800 people. My in-laws had nearly 300 people attend their wedding. So we consider the 100 person guest list we have to be a small wedding by that standard. These days a "big wedding" is usually more like 150-200 or more. I don't think you're lying if you tell people you're having a small wedding.
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Jess'sgirl · on June 19, 2017 at 10:12 PM
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Mmmhmmm.
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Mrs. Sitz · on June 19, 2017 at 10:45 PM
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"Although we would love to be able to invite everyone, we are working with a limited budget and have, unfortunately, had to cut some people from our ideal guest list. We hope you understand."
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