Nice Way to Say You're NOT Invited

'We're just having a small,immediate family only wedding'

Just say no you are not invited. You don't owe anyone an explanation or an invitation.

"We are having a very small, family only ceremony."

Anyone who has ever planned or paid for a wedding will understand regardless of what you say. You sound like me.... I hardly like anyone hahaha

I know how you feel, I had a couple of people ask me if they were getting invitations. I just had to say "since our venue is very small we were only able to ask family". It seems to be working so far.

I agree with the PP's. Just tell them it's going to be a small, intimate wedding. Only mention that if they ask about an invite.

I've had a few people ask about wedding details (when's the big date, etc) who aren't invited. I tell them the date, tell them that I'm really excited then excuse myself and walk away without giving them a chance to mention anything about invitations.

Thanks everyone! I feel like I would be lying if I say it's "small" because it's still about 100 people. But at the same time if it gets people to leave me alone why not?! Lol. It's just annoying! I have never in my life asked someone about inviting me to their wedding.

Audrey, I wish I could believe that. A friend of H told him last week she was bothered that she wasn't invited to our wedding. This "person" had what I know for a fact to be an expensive Saturday night wedding. So unfortunately, that's not true for everyone.

100 is small in some places...it's all relative so "technically" you're not lying. :-)

@Rahel - I need the answer to this as well

I have had people literally just assume that they are invited...obviously some of them have never been a part of the planning in an actual wedding and they just don't get it. My guest list is at 100 and this is a pretty small town so I can not say that it is "family only" because it is not, however, I need to keep my list size at 100 for my budget.

I have been trying to figure out how to respond to the ever so casual, "I can't wait for your wedding!"

Any suggestions???????

@Makela, "Awww...we're excited as well" then walk away.

"I wish we could have invited everyone we wanted, but you know how it is....". Stare blankly at them for a few seconds then change the subject.

Same issue for me as well. People think because they post nice things on Facebook that that means they have been involved in my life/our relationship and basically proclaim their attendance at our wedding. I know a lot of people since I love in a major city and work for a major organization. FH has a huge family since he's born and raised here so they take priority. If we don't converse in person or hangout on the regular I don't get how people have the nerve to expect an invite. I ain't trying to pay for randoms lol

@Makela - you can respond two ways:

"Why? Who invited you?"

or

"We'd love to invite everyone, but we simply can't afford to."

Agreed with pp. hate when ppl invite themselves. We have 160-170 on our guest list. Really hoping 100 show lol. So terrible isn't it?

I don't use the it's only family excuse cause all of sudden they are like aunts and uncles. Big nope.

When people asked if we were having a big wedding or about the guest list, I simply answered that it was going to be "mostly family."

You can also mention budget restrictions, venue size restrictions, wanting to keep things intimate.

It also usually helped when people asked me about wedding details if I started off by mentioning that we were getting married in my home state, which was clear on the other side of the country from where DH and I live. All of a sudden, I could sense that the person asking all these questions about the wedding was less interested in getting information, in most cases.

There's people I would love to invite, but my reception area only allowed 80 people (venue can hold 200+...but reception does not follow. Grr.). I've been saying, "Unfortunately, we are very limited on space and have chosen a small, intimate (destination) wedding consisting mainly of family. " some people feel a little miffed because they want to hop on the beach with us, but I could not properly host and I hate tiered weddings.

Yup, I will never understand this. It's common sense that you don't assume you're invited to someone's wedding. Whenever people bring it up, I just smile and don't acknowledge their rude assumptions.

My logic is that they'll get the hint when they don't receive an invite...