Newborn at a wedding?

I was totally ok with my 5 month old nephew being at my wedding last week. My bridesmaid's 2 year old - not so much

Newborns will still cry and will still distract you from what's going on, they are stil an interruption.

You have to follow her wishes, even breast feeding you could pre-pump a few bottles and it would be fine. You just have to decide if you're willing to miss it because they have a cut off... If they allow one of your kids (no matter the Age) others will be angry with them that they could t bring theirs.

As a bride I'm sure you understand that she had to make a cut off somewhere

Is this the same sister in law who is requesting her guests to pay an upfront fee of $50 BEFORE the event?

I agree with Tamika. I can totally understand you not wanting to be away from your baby at that point to attend, but that is your choice just like no children is their choice.

vow renewal, wedding, whatever you want to call it, it's something that is important to the couple and they are spending time, energy and money on it. they have a right to not want it to be interrupted by a baby. they are the host, they can state the rules.

how far away is the vow renewal? would it be possible to be there for just the ceremony or maybe after for some cake or something?

if you can't attend without your baby, then I think it is understandable that you will be a no show that day, it happens.

we are going to try to video broadcast our wedding, maybe they'll be able to do the same for those that circumstances prevents them from attending.

What 2nd bride said!

I would talk to them. I had my baby at his first wedding when we was 3 weeks old. It was a kid friendly wedding and my baby was in his car seat the whole receptiion (we didn't take him to the ceremony, didnt want to have him start crying in the middle of it), but the reception was held at the hard rock hotel and FH and I got a suite for the night to stay in so we didn't have to risk driving home late with our newborn. He slept through the whole thing and the one time he did wake up we immediately took him to our suite to feed him and change him. He went right back to sleep.

But like I said I would talk to them. Maybe possibly don't take your baby to the ceremony and just have him at the reception. If its at a hotel, consider getting a room or suite- it really was a smart choice for us

"Have a separate time to introduce your little one, where you can set the stage and circumstances for best feeding.

Bringing my LO to their wedding is not about "introducing" her to anyone. For the most part she'd be sleeping in her cat seat right next to me at the table, because more than likely I will not be able to do any dancing. As far as germs go when both my boys were born I let more than 20 people hold my kids. They barely ever get sick, and didn't really get any sicknesses at all until maybe 6-12 months old. I took them everywhere.

Honestly the parents that are the germ a phobes have kids that are always sick. Newborns also sleep 2-4 hours at a time, so I'd make sure she was sleeping or being fed during their ceremony to avoid any crying. If I remember last year the ceremony was maybe 10-20 mins long. At the reception I'm sure most of them will be too busy drinking and dancing to notice a baby cry at all...

As far as breastfeeding goes there is no "circumstances". You either go in another room, cover up, or not cover up.... I planned on making sure she was fed before the ceremony and have a pacifier on hand.

It sounds like at this point all you can do is talk to them. It doesn't sound like you are too worried about any of the concerns that have been mentioned about taking a 3 week old to the wedding. My main thing, which someone mentioned before, wouldn't be the germs, but the noise and atmosphere. I'm not sure that a loud wedding reception would be the best place for a newborn.

But if you aren't worried about that either, ask if you can bring your baby. If they say no, don't go. Or go to the reception or ceremony for an hour or two and ask DH to stay at home with them, then leave early to come breastfeed.

Let us know how it goes!

I wouldn't attend. Excluding children is their choice and they should understand that not everyone will be able to attend. I wouldn't leave my 2 week old baby with anyone whether I was breast feeding or not.

I also agree with 2d bride.

Maybe this is just me but I feel like Joy has made her decision and was looking for us to agree with her. We have offered advice but as she has reasons why our comments aren't applicable, I guess she just has to talk to her brother and sister in law and abide by their wishes.