New Significant Others

My first husband and I were married 3 months after meeting each other (married for 8yrs, still bffs). I find it disturbing how many people would have dismissed our relationship as "not serious enough" just because it didn't fit their arbitrary timeline. ETA But if invites have already gone out before the relationship starts, you are not obligated to add the new SO, though it would be nice.

When I was making my guest list I gave everyone that was single a +1 . They have that option if they want to use it.

My brother and his wife only gave plus ones to married couples. My FH and I weren't engaged at the time, but we had been together 6 years. I wasn't allowed a date, so I was a little salty. They got married on a big yacht in Florida, so I understand the space issue...but it did hurt my feelings and my FH feelings to know that our relationship was "inferior" because we weren't married.

I know not the issue at hand, but still..

Jessica, most people here totally disagree with you about it being poor planning.

Nope. After invitations go out, that's it.

"Jessica, most people here totally disagree with you about it being poor planning."

First of all, unless you actually polled everyone here (not just read posts on this thread), you have no way of knowing that. Secondly, AL, how are you a five star without realizing that most of us don't give a damn what most people agree or disagree about when stating our equally valid opinion?

@A.L.C We're paying that much per person for our wedding, and everyone gets a plus one. It's "improper hosting" to expect someone to sit there alone, in my opinion.