New Job Before Wedding?

Actually started a new job this past Monday. I was forced to leave a job I'd been at four and a half years because the company closed the office down. When they first announced back in December they were closing, I called my mom in a panic thinking I'd have to push the date (we'd already booked our venue, photographer and DJ).

New job and wedding planning didn't really factor into each other, because the job was necessary due to my days being numbered (plus, it was a decent pay bump). Luckily, they've been really good about allowing me to take the time off needed to run and get our marriage license and some last minute planning stuff done (we're getting married out of state, so its a road trip to get this stuff done).

I was offered a job right before the wedding and I accepted right after. It wasn't a big deal. I would honestly choose my career over a vacation (honeymoon) since I worked damn hard to get where I'm at. I don't see an issue with taking a job while wedding planning.

I started a new job a week and a couple days before my wedding. I wouldn't really factor the wedding into your decision at all.

I will be putting in my two weeks at a job I've been at for 5 1/2 years. I found a better opportunity and was skeptical at first, but I am glad I decided to move forward with my decision. If this job will be less stressful for you, then you'll be able to enjoy the planning and your big day way more!

My FH did and he's already one of those people who are afraid of change so it's been rough. I know that once he settles down and can get comfortable there that he will do great. Until then it's a rough rocky road for everyone involved.

I completely changed industries three and a half months before my wedding. I was upfront and honest about what I would need off and they were completely willing to work with me on it. I'm not sure it was the best decision for me (major pay cut, among other things) but it may be the best thing in the world for you. And it sucks that I don't have PTO for the wedding or the honeymoon, but my stress level is so much lower and my happiness level is so much higher!

It doesn't hurt to look and see what is available. Even if you get an offer, you don't have to take it unless it fills all of your requirements. It might offer the same perks you have now. Good luck!

I just switched jobs and we get married in 4 months, it's honestly been fine ! FH has been so supportive and helpful through the whole process!!

I just landed a new position at at a hospital and I get married a month before you.

Since it's so card in advance it would most likely be ok as long as you give a reasonable heads up!

If you find one within a few months of the wedding I would do like PPs have stated and be transparent about it.

I'm a little over 2 months out from my wedding and I'm starting a new job in 2 weeks. I'm not too worried about it. Only thing I'm concerned about is vacation time for the wedding/honeymoon.

I start my new job next week. I didn't think twice about it. It was the better fit and I jumped. I'm a teacher, and my new principal does know that I'm planning a wedding. I've already talked to her about the days off I will need to take. I don't have many because we're not having the honeymoon until summer. I think if the job is going to make you happy and it's a better fit, you do it. IMO, the job is more important than the wedding. Don't stay in a job that you don't love just because you've earned time off. I know many people who have told their new jobs that they have a honeymoon booked and it's worked out.

I was unemployed when I first got engaged. I'd bring up the wedding during job interviews when I was asked about any upcoming vacations. These interviews were about 8-9 months out from my wedding day, and it was fine. As PPs have mentioned, 11 months is a ways out. Keep in mind though that even in this job market, a job search can take six months.

Yep. Started one last week. I made sure to let them know about my DW wedding when they interviewed me only because she was started talking about start dates.

I just did. It was stressful for about a month but totally doable after that and I'll have a few months to get used to it before the wedding.

Why yes I did, and it was incredibly stressful for the first two months. I've been there almost three now, and feel much better about the job and *most* of the people I work with.

It was worth changing jobs for me, I was miserable at my last one after my boss retired. She was amazing and her replacement sucked, do it was time to move on. If you despise the job I'd move on; if not, I'd suck it up until after the wedding.

My wedding is less than 30 days out and I got laid off Last week. My last day was today. I've gotten offers, but I am worried about how they will react to me asking for time off so soon, and it may be unpaid since they are temp to hire positions. That said, if you find a great job, I would grab it. We may have to push back the honeymoon, but I'd rather do that than miss out on a good career opportunity.

As someone who just started a new job and is now stressed about accruing enough vacay for a honeymoon, I'd say hold off unless something you really love comes along. Especially when you don't have another offer now, I'd just deal with it a couple more months and use the vacay days as a cushion to help you find something else.

I'm going to agree with FH. it is highly unlikely you will be able to make a lateral jump. So, if you are serious about leaving, be prepared to give up some of the perks.

Yes, I resigned in June and started new job August 1st. It has been wonderful and the job is less stressful so it actually helps me with our wedding planning! Good luck!

If you do start looking, it's perfectly reasonable to ask for time off for wedding/honeymoon during your negotiation, and it's probably better than trying to request it after you've been hired and don't yet have vacation time. I've had vacations planned the last two times I started a new job and it wasn't an issue at all. I'm also getting more than ready to leave my current job, but am planning to buy a house in the next year and really just don't have the mental bandwidth to make that many life changes at once. I'm gonna get through my move and wedding before I start looking in earnest, especially because I do some contract work on the side that eats up the free time I currently have.