New Job Before Wedding?

I did. It's been fine.

I didn't take wedding planning into consideration when planning for my career.

I'm curious to hear responses as well! I'll be graduating in May before my wedding and will be able to begin applying as a school administrator right after, but I'm not sure if I would be better off waiting so it doesn't interfere with the wedding at all.

I don't see what the point of waiting until after the wedding would be. If you find a job you like better, go ahead and leave. I can't see how it'd really affect your wedding.

I did! Granted, I went back to a place I worked at before. I left this place to try something else, and it turned out to be a shitshow. I hated the people I worked with and I was stressed going to work every day. I contacted my previous employer and they were happy to have me back! But before I even got an offer, I told them I was getting married and I would have to take X days off in July. They were fine with it. I think changing is fine, just be upfront about days you will need off.

I just left my job of 5 years (actually today is my last day) and am getting married next year as well. My career goals were very important to me and when an opportunity comes you should take it. It may not come again and if its worth it and what you want you should definitely go for it.

Oh this was me! I was working for a major company for 7.5 years. Hated it. Finally made the big decision of leaving and it was truly the best thing I ever did. I started working at my current job in September and my wedding was November. If it's the job you want and need take it. Don't let it get away. You'll end up regretting it afterwards.

ETA: Just make sure you inform your new job about the wedding. Be open and transparent with them. They will appreciate the honesty.

@Mrs Richmond - it can affect potential time off. An employer may be unwilling to give you the time off for your wedding, depending on how close it is, especially if it's a job where you earn vacation per paycheck. Of course, OP's wedding is far enough off that it shouldn't matter.

I got a new job 4 months before my wedding (back in April). I am much much much happier now. It does suck that I don't have the PTO time to take any days off before or after the wedding day, but I wouldn't let that sway your decision. Your wedding is one day. You need to be happy with your job. My old job was a freaking mess and they treated their employees like crap, overloaded everyone with way too much work and refused to hire enough staff while wasting so much money elsewhere. Life is so much better now.

I complain to my FH and his response is that I have great flexibility and perks with this job and that there is no way I would find something with those benefits making the same salary. I guess it's about trade offs.

It all depends on the benefits and what you will need off for the wedding. I've been debating looking for a new job, but my hesitation is that I want us to take a long honeymoon and I'm worried I won't have the paid time off if I were to go to a new job (and I can't afford unpaid leave).

If you won't need paid time off around your wedding and you are THAT unhappy, then go for it and see what is out there. My experience with job hunting is that it is a process itself and it will take some time.

Money only means so much if you are unhappy.

If I were you, I'd at least send some feelers out - see what types of jobs are out there, if you like it then apply. See if you get any interviews. See what they say the salary is if they offer you the job.

You are in a position where, although you don't like your job, the benefits and money are good enough to keep you for now. So just apply to ones that you think would fix you being unhappy, and see what comes of it.

In terms of any penalties, really the only one is potentially not having enough saved time and having to take unpaid time for your wedding/honeymoon. Since you know that now, I'd put some money aside to save up for that instance just in case. Does your work pay out for vacation days not used? If that is the case, you could use that money as well.

I agree that your current position sounds flexible for motherhood, but honestly if you are so unhappy it will begin to take a toll on you and that will affect your personal life as well. There are other positions out there that are also flexible, so I say see what you can find. You don't need to move but you have the option to explore.

I just started a new job on 7/10/17. I have to take time off unpaid for the wedding , but it's worth it because I love the job I have now and I really didn't like the job I had before. You have a year to go before your wedding so I would recommend thinking about your career needs right now rather than the wedding needs.

I think you can look for a new position! just be sure to tell them about the time off that you need before anything is finalized. It might make you a less attractive candidate to some but it would be better that they don't hire you than have a hard time taking the time off that you need.

One thing to consider is time off for smaller errands like fittings or tastings. If they are approving two weeks for your wedding and honeymoon, they probably won't take kindly to other random days off so you will have to work around your work schedule for those things.

I started a new job less than a year before my wedding, no issues here!

I had planned my honeymoon before starting, and its during a time where the firm has a PTO freeze due to tax season (CPA firm) - they knew this after my interview and hired me anyway

Planning really should be done in your free time though, so I'm not sure how starting a different job would interfere with that?

I got engaged right after accepting an offer (didn't know the proposal was coming) and got married 8 months after starting the job. My boss completely understood because I was upfront with her from the beginning

I did. The stress of the new job was keeping me away from obsessing about the wedding but It has been three months already and I am back on wedding mode. Well actually now I am stressing about both lol.

I started a new job one month before the wedding. The timing wasn't great, but I am really glad I jumped anyway. I used to love my old job, but then new owners came in and made it into a terrible work environment. I was planning on waiting until right after the wedding to job search for PTO reasons, but it got so unpleasant that I went ahead and started looking a couple of months before the wedding. My new employers had googled me before the interview and found my wedding website, so I didn't even have to tell them about it. They just asked if I was going on a honeymoon and what days I would need off. Originally it was supposed to be largely unpaid time off, but it's a small firm and they wound up letting me borrow from comp time I will earn for putting in longer hours during our busy season. When all is said and done, I couldn't be happier with my choice!

I start my new position the week of my wedding - idk but I'm gonna make it work!

I did! I was unexpectedly let go in early March and my wedding was in July. I started a new position in late April. During the interview process I mentioned I was getting married that summer but didn't go into details. Once they extended me an offer, I said I wanted to accept but needed X amount of time off for already planned wedding things (bachelorette party, wedding, honeymoon). It was 13 business days over 6 weeks I believe. They could not have been nicer about it!! I got all that time off, and paid too (although I did offer to take it unpaid).

I realize this is not normal though. My company is amazing with PTO!

If I were you and had 30+ days saved and a flex schedule, I'd stay there until after the wedding and honeymoon.

I understand your concern. I just graduated in May and have not started looking for a new career in the field of my degree yet. My job now is extremely flexible. I can take off as much time as I need. ( I am taking off the week before the wedding and two weeks after currently. I have been here 7 and a half years. My pay is great but its just not something I love to do. I am waiting until after the wedding to find something else. If my job was stressful I would reconsider. But its no issue for me to wait it out.