New future in-laws

How did You deal with in-laws that didn’t seem to receptive of the proposal/wedding?


I’m a great reader of people. I can tell when it’s just “smoking mirrors.”
My FH has an 8yo child with another woman. We do not have kids. I don’t have kids period. His dad and his wife (FH step mom) welcomed me with open arms. Easygoing and has offered to help in planning.
FH MOM on the other hand, has challenged everything I do and makes it a point to uplift my FH child’s mother. I’m sure they have a relationship which is perfectly fine. But you would think you would be accepting to someone that will go to hell and back for your blood. But definitely not. It first it use to bother me. Now that I have a ring. I really do not care.
FH does not have an extremely close relationship with his mom but he IS respectful.I’m the bulldog in his life now and stand up for mine.
It’s just frustrating. Because I would like a relationship but it definitely is not a requirement at this point. I didn’t change to get my FH, he accepted me for me and loves me for it so I sure am not changing anything to please a person that’s not genuinely accepting of my place in her son’s life.
Dads are easy. But moms tho ugh!