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Lindsay, on April 13, 2020 at 10:44 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 7

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My wedding is July 17 and over the weekend I had come up with a back up plan to have a small ceremony on July 17 which is still the plan and then move the party and vow renewal to next year. I thought I made peace with the decision and then woke up the next day realizing why I couldn’t do it financially it is to much of a stress on my fiancé and I to move it to next year. We have new added bills that will be happening next year on top of paying old debts and realize that it’s going to be to much for us to handle. We have the money now and want to try and pay things off and get ahold of our bills. We need to try and make this event happen this year some way. The anxiety has been killing me because many people have said they would not feel comfortable coming to a July wedding so I’m wondering if I pushed it to the fall even though that’s not exactly something I wanted but I would do that so people would feel more comfortable but do you think people would feel more comfortable then? I would much rather push it to the fall and have people come then keep it in July if I’m allowed and no one want to come. I understand if people do not want to travel in but I do have a lot of local guests on my list. What are people’s thoughts on this? My MOH said if we’re back in school by Sept there is absolutely no reason why you cannot have your wedding by then. Im literally on plan Z at this point it’s been such a rollercoaster ride as I’m sure it has been for everyone 😩any advice is always appreciated my heart is with all of you brides going through the same thing ❤️

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Latest activity by Lindsay, on April 15, 2020 at 4:35 PM

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Rebelle Fleur · on April 13, 2020 at 11:21 AM
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I say go ahead and do it now while you have the money and everything already planned and lined up. I think a July wedding should be fine and The pandemic should die down by next month. If people want to come and celebrate your union they will. And it’ll probably be one of the first events they get to attend after the lockdown is over. Stay positive keep pushing toward but most of all do what’s best for you, your finances and your relationship.
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Lindsay · on April 13, 2020 at 11:29 AM
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Thank you I appreciate that!!!
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Katharine · on April 13, 2020 at 11:55 AM
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Have you talked to any of your vendors about the payments? I'm sure they wouldn't have any problem if wanted to pay them early instead of waiting until next year, if you postpone to next year. That way you guys can go ahead and pay everything now so you're not trying to balance those payments and your other obligations next year, if that's your concern behind postponing that far out.
We're planning the same thing. Currently set for July 18th, but back up plan to elope on that day and have a renewal/party next year if we end up up having to postpone. We've already paid most of our vendors early, and will have them all paid 100% by the time we have to make the decision to go ahead or postpone. We're just planning to find a new date next summer that all our vendors can accommodate.
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Sarah · on April 13, 2020 at 2:37 PM
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I would move it to next year. Experts are saying second wave of corona is coming in the fall.
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Lindsay · on April 13, 2020 at 2:47 PM
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Not a bad idea I could ask them! Thanks!
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Amy · on April 15, 2020 at 4:23 PM
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Hi Lindsay,
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I agree with the PP. Have you asked any of your vendors about your options to postpone? I'd start with the venue; it would be helpful to know their process/deadline for postponing and available date options. It wouldn't hurt to have a plan B.
Similarly, have you checked in with any of your guests? You may not be able to contact everyone, but I would reach out to my most important attendees if I were you. Who are the people that you absolutely must see at your wedding?
No one really knows when COVID-19 will pass. Plus, the impact on each city/state seems to differ significantly. Some places may be fine by summer or fall. It's hard to say. All you can do is make the decision that feels right for YOU with the information you have now. I hope whatever you decide to do reduces your stress and anxiety levels by a LOT.
Also, as you may have already seen, WeddingWire has created resources for the planning (and/or postponement) process: Our COVID-19 Weddings Advice Guide, including What to Do About Your Wedding During the Coronavirus Pandemic.
Good luck!
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Lindsay · on April 15, 2020 at 4:35 PM
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Thanks so much!!
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