New Brides Planning Wedding

Hi! Are you getting married on June 4? So am I!! It's not a big wedding like most brides here are planning - my husband and I were married 38 years ago come June 1, but we are now having the Catholic wedding we couldn't have then. It's a simple ceremony during our church's usual 10AM Sunday Mass. My best friend, also the church organist/choir/music director is my MOH. Our 36 year old son is Best Man and is coming up from SC with his 2 kids. My MOH and her hubby, who are dear friends, are hosting a wedding dinner at a nearby favorite elegant restaurant for the 8 of us: them, us, son & kids, and the priest. Hubby and I will then "honeymoon" (we never had one the first time, we got a house then a baby!) 3 days in PA Dutch country. My details are pretty much all done, except for my hubby getting his suit altered- he lost weight, and he needs new shoes. We're doing those this week, along with my hair and nail appointments. And making up the 8 favors which I'll do when the last of the fillers arrive - by Friday. Today, I'm unpacking the shower gifts my MOH gave me -she gave me a shower in November - just us 2, but she literally showered me with wonderful things - she's almost more excited than I am and has been great all through the planning!

So, with 19 days to go, how are you doing? Do you still feel stressed? Why was this so stressful? By now, you should be excited! Is family giving you a hard time? Any details that aren't ready or working out? How is your groom feeling about all this? I know I'm planning a small ceremony here, and back 38 years ago, our sweet little (non Catholic) church wedding not much larger than what we're having now, which we planned in 8 weeks, went well, with only 2 last minute hitches that went ok in time. And our son's wedding was even smaller - he was a Marine about to deploy. But I know how much brides want that special day with everything they always dreamed about and everyone they know there to celebrate. I hope by now you are feeling better about your planning, and things are going better, but feel free to come here and talk to us about it. I've found many of the brides here are willing to be helpful and supportive. Remember though, the most important detail about any wedding is how the bride and groom feel about eachother and their future together. If you love eachother deeply and have basically the same plan about how your life together should be, and you should have discussed all that already, you will be fine. Try not to let wedding stresses ruin your good time. And remember to enjoy yourself! Make sure you eat, rest, and when the Big Day comes, let go and have fun! Good luck to you!!

View Quoted Comment Hi Mrs.C!
Thank you for your support and wedding advice!
Yes my whole engagement has been super stressful due to lack of family support. Our wedding day is June 3rd. My fiancé has been super supportive and understanding of my wedding blues. I think it was stressful because I had to plan a wedding in less than 6 months… I also made the mistake of accommodating others instead of follow my heart and what my wedding day vision should be.. but everything seems to be all falling into place so I’ve been keeping a positive mindset moving forward. Now it’s just a little anxiety about the weather but I still will make the best of that day no matter what happens… my bridal party I feel disappointed me this whole planning process but in the end I get to marry my best friend who is a wonderful man, and I’m getting back excited 12 days away. Good luck to you as well and I am happy to hear you all finally get to have your special day the way you wanted!! ☺️

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Thank you for your good wishes! And, btw, according to Accuweather long range forecast here in NJ, the weather for my wedding day should be in the mid 70's with lots of sunshine. Where are you located? Our weather here for June 3 should be the same - sunny, 70's - just perfect! I'm glad you are marrying your best friend - that's as it should be. My husband and I were friends at the beginning too. I'd like to think we still are. The past 38 years were not easy in every way you can imagine: parents, in-laws, money, jobs, health, kids, grandkids, you name it. It defines "...better or for worse...". But, we have been getting through it all together and we still are. And although he's not Catholic, nor is he especially religious, as I am, I hope he believes that this Sacrament is one more way God is blessing our marriage - which is how I have explained this to him. I know he is going along and has asked me to keep it low-key, which I have. We have not "invited" anyone, though my MOH and I have asked a few friends who are fellow parishioners to attend that Mass. The choir I sing in knows and is excited to sing that day which is a regular choir Mass. The only other person in the parish that knows is the priest/pastor/officiant. Two of hubby's friends who are parishioners, but don't attend, know about the ceremony because we needed some paperwork from them for the priest, but not when - hubby doesn't seem to want to invite them for some reason, again probably doesn't want any fuss, and I'm OK with it. I've kept expenses & details to a minimum and hubby hasn't even questioned that - he said he trusts me, and that's OK too. My MOH who is the best friend I've every had!! has been an enormous help, in fact, she's been trying to get me to do this for more years than I even knew after we met 15 years ago. The only detail left is to assemble the 8 table favors, and wait for the florist to advise me how much, and when, for the flowers. He's a friend and a fellow parishioner so I'm not concerned. And for our son and grandkids to get here in time - they're due here early June 3, right after the kids get out of school. So, stay calm, enjoy yourself, and I wish you all the best of luck and God's blessings, with the wedding and for many years to come!