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New babies at no kids wedding

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Emily, on September 4, 2019 at 9:02 AM

Hey all,

This isn't a situation yet, but I'm wondering about people's past experiences to start thinking on it.

Our wedding is about a year away. My partner just picked his best man, and we also learned his wife is expecting. It's great news and I'm happy for them - but the best man did mention that since the baby will be young (a few months old) we'll have to figure out how to handle that.

We're having a no kids wedding except for my niece and nephew, who will probably not stay for the reception either. The best man is from out of town, so I know that complicates it further. I'm sure a new mom would be hesitant to leave her baby hundreds of miles away or leave her with a stranger.

For "normal" guests, if this was to come up is probably just say congrats and that we hope they can make it but I understand if they can't and we'll see them after. Wondering if anyone's had this with bridal party/ significant guest and is there anything to do except kind of see how they want to handle it?

I know my partner wants him as a best man, but I also get that his wife may veto so he can stay home.

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Jordan · on September 4, 2019 at 3:35 PM
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I literally had this exact same situation. You're actually lucky to have had the presence of mind to think about this so early in your planning process. This wasn't brought to my attention until about 4 months before our wedding. I'm honestly not even sure what they decided to do but both the best man and his wife RSVP'd yes to the reception so we will see. I definitely don't want the baby at the ceremony but don't mind if they come to the reception.
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Emily · on September 4, 2019 at 3:56 PM
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They are going to have to fly, so we'll play it however she'd like. Not actually sure how old the kid will be, they just found out the sex so not sure what week # that is.

If she does come, I'll just be discrete on asking her ahead that she maybe sit closer to the outer aisle so if fussy time hits close to vows she can go for a walk lol. Luckily she seems fairly chill the few times I've met her, so hopefully post baby she's still as sane.
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