Nervous breakdown

I'm currently waiting at the salon for my hair and makeup trial. Cried the whole way here for no reason, so I'm having a glass of wine at before 11am. The stress is really starting to get to me!

Come in off the ledge. Honestly. If you have a venue, food, booze, an officiant, music a dress and guest list, you're good to go. Most of the stuff that people get insane over make zero difference to the day. What exactly are you stressed about?

Had a mini melt down about two months ago when I realized my dad's tie that I ordered didn't exactly match my mom's dress (which matches the purple in my dress). Realized that something that little no one will notice. Since then I've decided to let go of what I can't control and the little details I was thinking we so important no one is going to notice or remember as long as the food, music and alcohol are good.

@Celia I'm stressed out because we have no center pieces. My FFIL said he would make us wooden boxes, and plant lavender in them. He keeps on saying he will do it but hasn't even done a mock up so I can decided if I like it. Our caterer keeps on changing our meeting for the tasting. FH still doesn't have his suit although he said he would take care of it. Also my sister who is in my wedding is upset that she's not my MOH, and is acting really bitchy towards me lately.

I did about six months ago. I was doing all of the planning on my own too and I just snapped. Since then FH has stepped up and is helping me when I need it. Communication is key.

I would suggest asking folks when they can get their stuff to you (centerpieces, suit, caterer, etc). Don't leave it open ended & then hold them to that date.

Other than that...take a few days/week off of wedding stuff & chill. I've done this several times thru out planning.

I had a mini meltdown last week. I had some wine and decided to let some stuff go. I agree with Celia Milton. I'm on a super tight budget I cut back on a lot and cut some things I really didn't want to lose. I still have food, DJ, Bar, officiant, my family and friends. My family and friends will not care that my centerpieces are cheap or that I don't have covers with giant bows on the chairs. The stuff everyone is going to care about is covered. I just decided to let the rest go.

I also had one a few months ago and another maybe last month but I decided to just take it day by day and just let everything fall into place.

I did not have time to have melt downs. I worked FT and had my father sick with cancer. Fortunately once I make a decision I stick to it. No time to second guess myself. A good chunk of our wedding was planned sitting in Dad;s hospital room..

Yep. Last night I broke down in tears and told FH to forget it because he keeps trying to tell me we should have pizza for our dinner instead of pasta.

I've been breaking down and crying over the stupidest shit ever the last month. ETA: not everyone likes fucking pizza!

Okay, @Stogner. Here's what you do (one of my officiants, who I married, did this and it was beautiful). You go to your local liquor store and you ask them if the sell wooden wine boxes. They usually do, and they're not expensive. You get potted lavender and some spanish moss and voila. If you can find smaller crates at your local dollar store, even better. But don't count on other people to do stuff because you can't control them, no matter how well meaning they are.

Give your caterer two drop dead dates for your tasting. None of us are busy now, so that shouldn't be an issue.

Suit? If he doesn't get one, he doesn't get one and he wears something he owns already.

And the MOH? Fuck her. It's not her opportunity to act out.

@MrsVoegs; honestly, it doesn't matter. You have food. Lower the bar ;-)

I also need a bunch of small stuff. I've been to tons of weddings and to be honest I've really never noticed the details cause I was too busy drinking and chatting lol

So with that being said try not to sweat it. It will get done. At the end of that day you will be married

@celia, you wouldn't side eye a pizza dinner? I mean its $6 cheaper/pp to do pizza but I feel like not everyone likes pizza. I told him that we should order a few pizzas later in the night and do the 3 pasta options for dinner. Should I just let him have this one? Lol

@MrsVoegs, I'm just glad my FH isn't the only FH to suggest pizza for dinner at his own wedding!! (And no he didn't mean gourmet pizza...he meant delivery, probably Papa Gino's pizza.)

ETA: We are having pizza for the rehearsal dinner, so that's the compromise. :-)

Yes yes my FH doesn't help but wanna say something after I decide

One of my all time fave rehearsal dinners (I dont' usually go to them, but it was a destination wedding....) was pizza and craft beer at a pool hall! It was great!

I have had a few wedding related meltdowns, but I finally told FH that if he didn't go in 50/50 with me on planning I would be buying us an elopement package in Vegas. He has been a lot more involved since then.

I've had a few breakdowns. Last week I didn't sleep for 3 or 4 nights stressing over who was going to give speeches. I came onto WW and was told no one would care. And then I realized most of the stuff I was stressing about, were stuff people wouldn't really care about.

Please take care of your mental health and don't stress about the small things. *hugs*

Celia always says it best!! That being said....I can never remember the little things I've seen at weddings. Take care of yourself! When all is done, things will turn out well and you will be married to the man of your dreams.

If your FFIL isn't coming through with centerpieces, then it's time to see a pro. This is why we advise against friendors, which includes family. Pay someone to do it, and it'll get done.

And remember, worst case scenario you'll be just as married without centerpieces and your FH is not going to turn up naked. None of it is worth risking your mental health over.