Negative Nancy

Unfortunately, there is so much uncertainty and day-to-day changes with this virus, that it is impossible to predict what will happen a year from now. We have postponed our wedding from November 2020 to November 2021, in hopes that an additional year will bring about more knowledge of the virus (and hopefully a vaccine, cure, or at least an effective treatment!). To be honest though, if things still aren’t squared away by Fall of next year, FH and I are going forward with our wedding - whatever that may look like. With this pandemic being so unexpected, I think it is only natural to worry. I also think it is perfectly reasonable to postpone big events like weddings - after all, your wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime experience, of course you want to maximize the chances of having the wedding you envisioned! That being said, I think it is also helpful for a couples to sit down and formulate a “what if” plan. What if things are not back to normal (or normal enough to have the wedding of your dreams)?- How long do you want to wait to be married? How many times are you willing to reschedule? How many times are your vendors willing to reschedule? If the worst happens, would you guys choose to have a small intimate wedding, then plan to have a larger wedding or reception at a future date? I think under our current circumstances, all couples should talk these things through and have a contingency plan. Plus, having a “just in case” plan in place helps to alleviate stress now, and prevents panic and rash decisions in the future.

I am July 2021 and planning things as things are normal. We dont know what a year out looks like. Im just happy im in the middle of summer and not the normal flu seasons. I have a wedding this Saturday so if things are moving now im staying positive for next year.

Those people you mentioned who “seem confident” might be putting on a brave face to stay optimistic and hopeful. There is nothing wrong with trying to stay positive. It isn’t the same as sticking their heads in the sand - one can be both optimistic and cautious. The key is flexibility, patience, and understanding.


Saw this meme and thought it was a good indication of how all our emotions are all over the place this 2020.

I think it's more of the fact that by Spring and Summer 2021 we will have more information and better ideas on how to live life while also dealing with COVID. A few months ago we were technically on lock down being told to only go out for work, grocery shop, and exercising but now we have many people out going to BBQs, restaurants, markets, gyms etc. We even have people going on vacation without issues as long as they're screened properly, tested, and social distance. By then it will be at least a lot easier and as close to normal you can get for a wedding.

Just make sure there are clauses in your contract just in case. personally i dont think there will be a vaccine by then.

August 2021 bride here. I’m definitely nervous about this still being an issue and don’t think things will be back to normal by then, but we’re still moving forward with planning. It’s hard to see the end of it when you’re still in the thick of it. We’ve already discussed options with our venue for plan B (reduce guest list from 150 to 100) and plan C (reschedule for 2022), and will contact our other vendors if we decide to reschedule. I think the most important thing is open communication with your venue and vendors. Start discussing all of your options now.

I am behond annoyed that we have such poor leadership in the usa now. Other countries are enjoying their summer meanwhile we're even banned from going in. We are undesirables :-( luckily Cuomo did a good job and we can have some sanity and recreation in NY

View Quoted Comment As someone with family in NY nursing homes, I respectfully but firmly disagree and ask that we keep politics off of the forum.

View Quoted Comment I didn't think this would hit a nerve for anyone. I am happy I live here

2020 postponed bride here. New date sept 2020. Honestly I'm kind of a negative Nancy too. I really hope my wedding happens but my venue has already brought up postponing again and what that might look like for next yr 2021. If that happens I'm asking for a refund. With everything not getting better but worse I mean who knows what next yr will look like. I'd rather have a small thing and put the extra money towards a rockstar honeymoon!

We were supposed to have a May 2020 wedding so had already paid all of our deposits and booked all our vendors before the pandemic hit. We have rescheduled for next year because we would have forfeited our deposits completely otherwise. I feel like there is a chance we will have an effective, safe, and readily available vaccine by June 2021 (our rescheduled date), but I'm not confident that it will be so. I feel like it could go either way.

If I were still in the planning stages (not "we planned everything and then had to postpone") I would be VERY hesitant to book anything for an event resembling a typical larger sized social wedding event with dancing, etc. If a couple really wants to be married next year, then my advice would be to plan something easily scaleable, and have a plan with your vendors in the event of needing to change your date or vision. If having a bunch of people together dancing and partying freely without masks or social distancing is important to a couple, then I'd err on planning a wedding for 2022 or later (and still talking with vendors about policies around moving dates or changing services in your contract). Having all of our plans in place, counting down the days, envisioning our beautiful wedding, and then having Covid come in and ruin everything was devastating and extremely stressful and a situation I would actively encourage couples to avoid setting themselves up for.

View Quoted Comment Sharon- I have the same attitude as you! You can go to Walmart and sit at a restaurant with 100 other ppl but can’t have a reception. What state are you in? I’m in NY- Just waiting for Cuomo to give a little bit more lee way for outdoor gatherings. I’m scheduled for 9/5/2020 🤦‍♀️🥺

View Quoted Comment Same I'm in NYS & King Cuomo is sucking every bit of fun out of my wedding, its 10/17/20. Its hard & stressing enough to plan a wedding now its a day by day assessment. Like how u gonna say I can't dance w my new hubby we live together! He just said bars have to serve food w alcohol to remain open or serve. Im out of here tho. Moving to AZ next June hopefully 🤞

View Quoted Comment Good for you! West is best!!!!