Negative Nancy

So I'm getting married in August 2021 and I am extremely nervous about the pandemic going on still.. We had already booked our venue but we are waiting until like December or January to go ahead with the caterer, dj etc.. We figure hopefully we'll have some kind of indication which way this will go.. We have still been planning everything out for a few different scenarios so we aren't blindsided if everything can't be exactly as we had wanted it but haven't spent too much actually ordering anything yet until we know more.

I’ve believed all along that next year will be just as bad as this year. I don’t see things actually improving until 2022. That’s why we are just going through with our wedding plans this year. We don’t want to keep postponing and waiting.

I would just be careful when you book things to make sure you will get your money back if you have to cancel due to covid. We can hope it’ll be over by next summer but initially everyone was sure it would be over by now, so there’s no way to know.

I think people are just trying to be optimistic and positive. I don’t realistically see Covid being gone by spring but I do think the situation as far as distancing requirements will improve. There will always be the people who don’t want to leave the house for another five years but there will also be more and more people who are more comfortable with attending events as time goes on. My sister in law just got engaged and scheduled her wedding for spring and I think shes crazy for that but to each their own I guess

It won’t be gone. I’m getting married next fall, and I realize that we may have to adjust some of our current plans to accommodate. I also realize that masks may be required. We’re still planning and moving forward for multiple personal reasons. The important thing is that we get to marry the love of our lives! The rest is just details.

We are getting married in August 2021 and it's on my mind every day. I want to give people deposits so I know I have them for that day but at the same time if things don't change and I have to cancel my wedding I don't want to be out all that money. It gives me anxiety. I just pray that everything gets better before spring.

I do think this pandemic will be around for a lot longer than people expect. This is why we have decided to go through with our August 15th wedding. We will social distance and have masks for those who want to wear them.

Yeah, we're proceeding for that reason as well at this point (VA, Sept 12, <100). We're requiring masks when not eating/ drinking, asking ppl to enforce social distance for themselves, etc.
We honestly have talked about that it's possible ppl we love may get the virus before any postponed wedding time, so having the wedding with precautions may increase the ppl who we can experience it with.
At this point thinking about the wedding gives me a knot in my stomach. Going to try to enjoy it as much as we can. I guess the silver lining is I won't be one of those married ppl who is like post wedding depressed - I think I'm going to be mega happy to never do this thing ever again 😂✌️

I actually think we will have more promising treatments and something closer to herd immunity by summer next year (hopefully aided by a vaccine). Also, people won't tolerate the restrictions forever and this disease is likely in permanent circulation, so eventually we will all take the (hopefully reduced) risk like we do with the flu.

We’re nervous as we’re rescheduling to May of 2021. Even if we’re still at 50% capacity and have to implement social distancing & still wear masks, I hope the number of cases improve until then, and ultimately a vaccine is available!

We met with and talked with our venue coordinator Saturday and feel better about everything. We discussed alternative seating arrangements, which aren’t ideal but we can utilize some 2 top tables outside of the room our reception is in to space guests if we have to at least for eating. While it’s not ideal and I would rather keep people in the same room, it’s a good option to have.

I think the majority of 2020 Brides will tell you that everything we have been dealing with around our wedding's have been met with Negative Nancy's. We were originally 6/27/2020 but have postponed to 12/12/2020 and will be having our wedding that weekend unless everything gets locked down again. I agree with PP's, read your contracts with vendors THOROUGHLY and go ahead and plan your day for 2021 if that is when you want to get married. I do not think it is going to be a 2 year long pandemic.

I was supposed to be a spring 2020 bride. Now fall 2020 bride. I am far from positive. I'm literally preparing for the worst. I've already said if I need to postpone again for 2021 then I want a refund and just do a backyard kind of thing. I am not confident that this will be gone next yr. As hard as it is plan your heart away with hope for the best, but also prepare for what could be

View Quoted Comment I’m in VA too (October 24)... how many people can you have if things stay in Phase 3? What if they go back to Phase 2? I’m so confused, as I’ve read different things!!!

EVERYONE and I mean EVERYONE has been saying "oh it'll be over by November, it'll be fine" for months now and well...it's july and it's just getting worse. So we are just taking extra precautions because it seems pointless to reschedule when it seems this is becoming the new normal and we can't afford to postpone. Thankfully we are already having a small wedding so we won't have to downsize much. We are giving masks and hand sanitizer as favors, limiting close contact with those outside your family unit, and having servers for the food and other things.

View Quoted Comment So my understanding is they can do up to 250 (or 50% of capacity whatever is lower) but you have to go masks/ social distance indoors obviously.
If we went back to phase 2 that's 50 ppl, which we could manage to cut. Anything you can do outdoors, I'd encourage you to explore that.
We moved ceremony to outside, weather permitting. But reception is indoors and I'm really worried about it. You?

View Quoted Comment My ceremony is only about 20 people (outside)... then the reception will be inside, thinking 75-100... our venue holds 350, so I think it would work, if they don’t go back to saying we can’t have gatherings! I still worry, spending all this money and the country getting closed down again... how many people do you have?

Well negative Nancy, allow me to be realistic Rebecca lol. I personally feel like you make some valid points and we do not know what will happen with COVID but I feel we should not base our lives around it completely. Weddings can be held but maybe the guest size is smaller. Having more guests does not make the wedding better. It is the love and fun you and the groom have the day of. We as of now need to learn to live with this until it is under control but until then I say plan along but back some back ups just in case and check contracts with your vendors.

Ours Is October In Virginia. I've Been Optimistic This Entire Year. No Covid Isnt Just Going To Vanish, But Im Not Going To Let It Stop Me From Living My Life. I.E. Having The Wedding We've Planned. This Is Something We All Have To Learn To Live Around-Things Are Different But Life Goes On.

I think COVID will probably still be around in 2021. We have already postponed our wedding twice. Now looking at 2021 dates because our venue isn’t having any events till at least January of 2021. Will guest have to wear masks... probably. Will we might have to find a bigger venue for the amount of guests we want with 6 feet social distancing... probably. Will we have to go from a buffet meal to a plated meal... most definitely if our governor doesn’t allow. We are very optimistic that this third date will be the charm and we will be married next year even if COVID is still around.

All the restrictions are hit or miss, we are still going ahead with our Oct 2020 wedding and be damned if anyone stops us. This Covid is serious but the way they have handled it is just a way to control us. Crazy how a restaurant can have up to 50% capacity but a wedding venues can't. How does that make sense. Constitutionally they can't stop me, try as they might. Just have a "protest" and it's all good right.