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Peyton, on February 3, 2020 at 12:45 PM

My FH and I when talked bout getting married we firstly talked bout a small wedding. We originally talked bout just having something in his moms back yard with parents , siblings , nephew / nieces and the few friends we had. Well something flipped in my head. Now we having a 10,000 dollar wedding...

My FH and I when talked bout getting married we firstly talked bout a small wedding.

We originally talked bout just having something in his moms back yard with parents , siblings , nephew / nieces and the few friends we had.

Well something flipped in my head. Now we having a 10,000 dollar wedding with estimated 200 people.

My FH husband keeps saying this is my wedding not his. That this isn’t the wedding that he wanted.

And tell me that my mother and his mom thinks I shouldn’t have let it get this big or should’ve just done what we talked bout a year ago before we actually started planning. (My mom apparently says this behind my back not to me because she tell me whatever I want for the wedding it’s my choice )

Well it’s making me feel like crap that I know that how he feels bout the wedding. Like I’m fine with the wedding we having. Like I was happy and exited but the more I keep hearing him say that it making me regret it because of him saying that it isn’t his wedding.

Just needed to vent because I am STRESSED out to the max right now. I could cry 🙃

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Expert October 2020
Sara · on February 3, 2020 at 4:47 PM
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Maybe something on a completely different day? Then ur wedding day will be more like a vow renewal. Idk I think u need to just make sure u involve him in everything else and you both practice communication and figure out ur expectations.
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October 2020
Fleur · on February 3, 2020 at 7:14 PM
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Peyton quit stressing! Honestly I would want the big wedding too!! And c’mon, your FH had to know what was going on. I think it’s a bit unfair for him to bring all this up this now. Maybe wedding stress is getting the best of him. The good news is you’ve got the cost figured out so just enjoy it at this point. Talk together on what you both learned from this experience and how you can work together on the big decisions in the future. Live and learn. Hang in there love!
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Dedicated April 2021
Peyton · on February 3, 2020 at 7:15 PM
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Thank you , makes me feel a little better. Appreciate it .
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Expert March 2021
Jordan · on February 3, 2020 at 7:24 PM
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I'm so sorry your stressing about this! I would try to have another conversation with him about it and ask him what can you do at this point that will help and make him feel better? Maybe he has something in mind or a solution that you guys can compromise about. I am sure everything will all work out great and even if its not the day he or even you guys originally thought, the day of will be amazing and most importantly you guys are getting married.
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