Need to vent

Alisa,

Rants are what we need sometimes! Thank you for sharing. I've been looking into whether we should hire a planner/coordinator or not, because it seems like a huge expense and I'm the kind of person that loves to micromanage. However, I'm like a Chick-Fil-A worker and cannot for the life of me "put my foot down," at least not conversationally... I'm thinking that my future mother-in-law and grandmother are going to be my go-to in these kinds of situations. They're great at turning a "no" into a "of course" and getting things done, whereas I can be a bit more of a pushover.

Little anecdote: For example, as a teaching assistant I was reprimanded a lot for asking the children to follow me onto the carpet, or asking them to do things like tidy up or wash their hands. Little did I know, they need to be told to do certain things, because if you ask them, they won't oblige.

I hope that the two women I've entrusted will be able to take a stand for me, but at the same time I don't them to be "working" during a celebration. I look forward to reading others responses and seeing how they may have handled hiccups, or if they hired a professional to deal with that for their family's sake.

Thank you for your post! "Rants" are my favorite

Aubrianna Abbema

I’m sorry your venue manager was not helpful. At least this is something you can hand over to your coordinator! Vent all you need, that’s what we’re all here for

Don't be afraid to voice what you want it is your day. You are important and well you are paying them to do a job that you choose. Stand your ground if you feel need to.

It's okay to vent and you have probably helped others out by telling you what people should be aware of. Thank you for that, sweetheart Everything will turn out great and I want to wish you and your love great and joyful adventures that last a lifetime

Space and revisiting an item later when you're less upset is always a good plan. I also hate confrontation and sometimes having an email where I can put all of my ideas down, calmly, and without interruption helps me say what I'm really feeling. it allows me to be direct without being too soft or too harsh.

I have a venue manager who seems to take the path of least resistance and likes to say no to a lot. I was encouraged by a family member who met with her with me to not be quite as nice. I'll share with her what she told me, you're a paying customer and this is the most important day of your life. You deserve to be accommodated and have your requests met. YOU ARE PAYING FOR THIS.

I do not have a coordinator and my wedding is in 5 days - I was able to handle everything, but It sounds like you just have a jerk of a venue manager to deal with. I hope everything worked out.

So sorry to hear what you have to go through! Yes, please vent away!