Need opinions

I do think that's young but I also don't know where you are in life to judge. If you're stable financially then go for it.

I don’t think is about if you are too young. I think is more about how ready you’re. Being financially stable and in my opinion, getting to know each in a married life is very important.

I was married and had my first kid at 19. My aunt didn't have her first kid until she was 37. It all depends on the couple and what they want. How does your husband feel about it?

Hey Kaylah

That is something you and your husband would need to decide. You'd have to assess your lives in terms of finances, housing, schedules, things of that nature. Once you guys break down all of that, you can make your decision if you want to try for kids. No one can tell you when to have kids. Some people have kids at 18, others have kids closer to 40. I had my first daughter at 20 and I had my 2 daughter at 23. It's not easy with kids, but they are blessings and for us, we're happy we had them earlier than later. But that's us. We knew there was no other option but to have our beautiful daughters. We make things work. And they enrich our lives. I hope you will be able to have a discussion with your husband, and see where that takes the both of you. Wishing you all the best

View Quoted Comment Yea that’s a good idea

View Quoted Comment How do I pm you ?

View Quoted Comment Thank you very much

View Quoted Comment Thank you ❤️

View Quoted Comment We are already married and only paid 300 for our wedding since we eloped

View Quoted Comment He is ready as well

Just because of my personal experience (was married at 21 divorced by the time I was 25) I'd say give it a few years to be sure this is forever. I think everyone changes so much in their early 20s, you or your now husband might not be the same person you met and fell in love with. I know it can happen to people who are older, in my opinion the risks of that are much higher for someone who is 20. Just my opinion
It sounds like you are bored. If that's the case I'd get a hobby or maybe a more interesting job instead of thinking of filling it with a baby.
Also something to consider... You might have a house and savings but what about health insurance? Are you ready to stay home until the child is in school or pay for years of childcare? Also...not every pregnancy is easy...you might be throwing up for months or be unable to study or work or do anything around the house. I think we all want to think that this baby will be healthy and perfect and it would be the happiest experience but it's not always the case. I'm not saying it'll happen to you but I'm saying it happens.
Babies are hard expénsive exhausting. They affect relationships, work and turn ur life upside down.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your opinions. I’m sorry to hear that

Kaylah I'll be 31 in 9 days and still have no kids, hoping to try maybe next year . Whats the rush? enjoy life, travel and be able to get up and leave at the drop of a hat. Maybe do some traveling and exploration now and come back to the topic in a year or two. At the end it's up to you 2 but this is the only time to be selfish without worries about any huge responsibilities. I don't think you're too young, maybe instead haven't lived enough , together as a married couple.

View Quoted Comment We are really boring and I’m a student so I can’t travel until I finish school. And he works for a big company and only gets some many vacation days that why I’m thinking kids now travel later.

I got married at 22. In less than 2 months I was pregnant. I had my son less than 2 months before my 1st wedding anniversary. Im now 30 and getting married to my FH in 2 yrs. Our daughter will be one next month. We only have the 2 and that's all we can have. While I love my kids I wish they had been planned. My FH and I love when we get time alone and away from the kids. We got pregnant early in the relationship so having time just the two of us is needed. I look forward to our honeymoon as it will be my first vacation with my FH without kids( I haven't been on a vacation without kids since becoming a mom). Kids are great but they do change relationships. I say give yourself time being married before having kids.

View Quoted Comment

Being a parent is the hardest job you'll ever have, and once it starts, it never ends. Make absolutely sure you're ready for that level of commitment and responsibility before you get pregnant.

Think about what you want from life. You said you're a student, so, are you focusing on a certain career path? If so, will having kids now alter that path? Are there other things in life that you want to do or accomplish? Travel? Buying a home? These are all things to consider before you have kids. Like someone else said, once you have them, you can't take them back. Life gets a lot more complicated once you bring kids into the picture. I'm not trying to discourage you, just suggesting things to ask yourself, and talk over with your husband. You are so young still, you really do have plenty of time to have a family.

View Quoted Comment I am going to school to be a teacher and I feel that it won’t alter my career because most teachers end up staying home until kids start school since child care cost as much as a paycheck from teaching. We are buying a home in May 2020.

Coming from someone who became a mother at 19 I would never change it BUT i do often think about where I could be in life if I had waited. Granted I wasn't married but honestly I was a full time student when I had my son and it was HARD! It took me 2 years and probably a whole grade point average drop to get my degree and I stressed like there was no tomorrow and I had a great support system. Only you and your husband can make the decision BUT I would recommend waiting at least a little bit. Once you start having kids its hard to get into the grind of your career and what not. Y'all aren't even old enough to drink legally and experience that side of things. Just my personal opinions though. I never was one to party or anything like that but when I turned 21 I definitely missed out on a lot because I was a young mother.

View Quoted Comment

This is not really a true statement. My best friend is a teacher and just had a baby back in June and just started her school year up. They needed her income and her husbands income to pay for the added expenses of having a child in the house.

View Quoted Comment How long would you recommend waiting? See I can’t drink at all so that’s not a big deal to me. I had tbi in January 2018 so I can’t have alcohol or any of that fun stuff.