Need opinions

It's obviously up to you, but I would enjoy life a little as a newly married couple! Once kids come in the picture, it's hard to go out and do things for yourself. Everyone on my dad's side of the family has typically waited about 2 years to start having kids and they all said it was the best decision they could have made.

First, make sure you both feel stable: You’re both in decent jobs, have housing that is compatible for children etc. maybe you want to google questions you should discuss before having a child and talk with your husband. Also consider that you’ll miss out on a lot of the fun stuff young 20 somethings like to do. If having a baby is a bigger priority to you than that stuff and you both agree on the big topics than go for it!!
if you’re getting some push back from people, you could consider being married for 1 year and then start trying 😊 I know a lot of people suggest enjoying marriage for a bit before children!

View Quoted Comment See the thing is we don’t really do anything at all. We spend our weekends home and watch tv and I do homework

If you’re asking complete strangers if
you should start having kids or not, I would say the answer is no.

This decision is yours to make. Remember that there’s no harm in hurting. Babies can always come later, but you can’t take them back once they’re here.

View Quoted Comment He has a good job and makes decent money. I’m a full time student and work part time. We don’t really do anything as is. Yea I’ve heard that but the way I see it is if we get pregnant we have 9 months which would put us at being married for a year

View Quoted Comment Just want people’s opinions. I want a baby but I want to see how other people think. My family all had kids young but I just don’t talk to them much so I don’t know what it’s like

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I understand not doing anything on the weekend. FH and I just hang out with our pup most weekends. However, when there are times we would like to do something, it's even mildly inconvenient boarding her (and child care isn't any cheaper). I would at least wait until you are done with school. Not saying it's impossible, but having a child to take care of while also going to school full time would be very difficult.

View Quoted Comment Oh school changes things. I would wait until you’re done with school. Even if you’re doing well and handling things, new classes can change things. One you don’t expect to be challenging can surprise you. Take that from a student who had a 3.8 gpa you then failed a class. School is too important and expensive to have to put yourself through unneeded stress. Of course, there are parents who do school just fine but if you can wait I would wait

View Quoted Comment See I’m going for my masters though so I have 2.5 years of my bachelors then I have to teach two years and go back two more for my masters so that would put me at almost 27

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your opinion it means a lot

View Quoted Comment I think if I was in your position I would have the baby after undergrad and then take a year or so until starting grad school. Just to get nice and used to the new “normal” with the baby. Of course it depends on your husbands opinion and how much he’s able to help!

Wait until you are both 25 and your frontal lobes are formed. Seriously. I was 32, hubby was 35, we had good jobs, supportive family and neighbors and it was STILL hard. You have the rest of your lives to be parents - enjoy your young life now!!!!! (Besides, I did not want to be a gramma at age 40, lol!!!)

PM me and I'll give you my story, I had mine at 19 it was the best thing I did but there are some things you should know from someone whose done it.

I would wait a few years and enjoy the freedom you have now

I would finish your bachelor degree first.

A few things, I'd suggest enjoying being married for a bit. I also agree with the brain maturation comment, but that bit is up to you.
Also, make sure that you can manage child care as well as a roof over your heads. A kid is stressful enough without knowing if you can afford groceries or the electric bill. For an estimate, a day care in my area easily runs from $800-1400/mth.

Kids can be extremely stressful depending on what day you ask. The last 2 nights my 1yr old son has woken up screaming from teething and my 3 year old daughter got into their closet and tore everything apart and that's not including the mess they make of their room lol. I would suggest finishing school and making sure you guys talk about everything, childcare, babysitters, cost if diapers formula and any other expenses that will include kids. Plus the first year will be the hardest from the lack of sleep which can take its toll on a relationship if you guys don't communicate.

View Quoted Comment I would wait till you are out of school,

View Quoted Comment Then you are paying for wedding and baby. While going to school and having a part time job and being pregnant.