Jenn M
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Need Opinions!! September Florida Bride!

Jenn M, on June 2, 2020 at 4:26 PM Posted in Florida Planning 0 7
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HELP!!! Smiley cry

I am getting married in Fort Lauderdale, FL. My wedding was planned for May 1, 2020 and obviously didn't happen due to COVID. I've been engaged a year as of May 26th (ughhh) and my new date is set for September 5th! I got a sweet deal with my venue and they gave me a Saturday and honored by previous Friday pricing. Now, September is quickly approaching (95 days) and I am afraid I am going to have to postpone, AGAIN! I am so sad, and I feel like a bridezilla but this really sucks! I just want the same joyous, fun, once in a lifetime experience that all the other brides (pre-covid) got! Now I am worrying about face masks, social-distancing, dancing, no one wanting to come and having to un-invite people! My venue is getting ready to open in June but at half capacity, which would mean we have to un-invite 100 people! How embarrassing, not to mention some of these people already bought us gifts, what an awkward conversation. I also don't have details on what social-distancing measures are in place at the venue. My biggest concern is dancing, will that be allowed? We have a huge Hispanic family and dancing is a MUST.

We are hoping that by then things have loosened up a bit but everyday, we lose a little more hope :-(.

My venue has January 23rd, 2021 open right now and April 3, 2021. I REALLY REALLY don't want to wait any longer for my wedding, but, I'm afraid if I don't move it and I am forced to in September, then there won't be any open dates left.

WHAT WOULD YOU DO!!

Ps. I forgot to mention I am a cancer and hence I don't like to make any decisions. So I rely strongly on the advice of others!

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Latest activity by Hanna, on June 2, 2020 at 10:40 PM
  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    Personally, if I was really upset about the masks/social distancing/no dancing, I would postpone. Most people hope to only be engaged once, so why rush through it? Yes, it may not be the best option, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying being engaged. It's such a special time and you can always stop and smell the engagement roses!

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  • C
    Dedicated April 2022
    Chris ·
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    We have very similar dates. Our original wedding date was May 2nd, 2020 in downtown Miami. We postponed to August 29th, 2020. As of now we are moving forward unless the venue doesn’t allow it. We should be finding out this week what restrictions we should expect. We have Italian and Hispanic family so dancing is a must for us too. And we already paid for hora loca too so dancing is extra important. We are ok with having more tables to help with social distancing but yeah I too worry about which guests won’t want to come. Fingers crossed for us all!
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  • Jenn M
    Dedicated January 2021
    Jenn M ·
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    Thanks for replying! I feel a lot more confident knowing that you’re moving forward! Would love an update when you know what restrictions you’re looking at. My venue hasn’t said anything yet. If we stay with 9/5 we’re planning on doing a live stream of our ceremony for those who aren’t comfortable coming so they can be there for some of the day!
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  • Natalie
    Devoted December 2021
    Natalie ·
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    Fellow Cancer & South-Floridian here 🙋🏻‍♀️ And I also have a huge Hispanic family, so I hear ya on the dancing portion - a definite MUST HAVE! I’ve seen more and more brides lately on here saying they’re moving forward with their current plans. But, the “dancing” continues to be up in the air. South FL is a PARTY nation, and we’ve been so progressive in getting things “back to normal” that I’m sure by September, you’ll be able to have some dancing! Perhaps maybe with a larger surface area, but still.


    One thing to keep in mind about the other dates mentioned, January is such a beautiful month to get married in this area! Let that motivate you SHOULD you have to postpone. But April 3rd next year is the day before Easter, so you might have a few guests leave earlier or not party as hard. Just a thought!
    Good luck girlie!!! 💛
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Here are my thoughts and my apologies if they sound harsh. I have seen various brides posting about not wanting to wait to get married but wanting a big wedding. I am not saying you should not have that but I feel that as brides when we get frustrated with any wedding planning we need to remember the #1 thing about the wedding (I have had to tell myself this when I get stressed things are not going as I planned) is that we are marrying our soulmate. Large weddings with people we love are nice but that is not what it is about. I have seen many brides during COVID-19 have a backyard wedding or in front of their apt and planning a party later. I agree that I would not want to wait to marry my FH so why should you. What do you think about having the small affair in September (I think canceling due to a pandemic is not awkward rather understandable during this time...not like you are uninviting just because) and then at a later date have a vow renewal with the large reception you want. I see it this way, you would get to celebrate twice and wear your dress two times. I do not mean to sound rude as I do empathize with you and other brides. Corona horribly sucks and has killed 2020 (along with all the social injustices happening too) but I feel that we need to not let is bring us down. I think you need to decided what is most important, marrying your fh because if so then go forth with September and plan for something larger later when guidelines allow or if having the big wedding is most important then I would postpone. Again, I would do both but I am extra lol. I live in Florida and I think you could have a wedding up until May and get some decent weather. Good luck.

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    Dedicated April 2022
    Chris ·
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    It’s good to hear from other South Floridians and their wedding plans. Let’s all keep each other posted here!
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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    If I were in your shoes, I would take that January 23rd date before another bride grabs it! I just don't see a way a September wedding would work with a large crowd and lots of dancing. I was supposed to attend 2 weddings in September and both have been postponed. That would be my advice, but of course everyone is different. Best of luck whatever you decide!

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