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Super June 2016

Need alternative to "give bride away"

Sci Fi Bride, on April 13, 2016 at 1:30 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 15

I hadn't planned on being given away, and had honestly not even planned for my father to walk me down the aisle. I figured I'm too old for that, it's archaic, and he and I have a weird relationship anyway. But, if he's springing for a tux I thought maybe he could walk me down the aisle if he doesn't 'give' me away.

I need suggestions for language other than "who gives this bride away." Or does anything even need to be said? Can he just escort me to the groom and go sit down?

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Latest activity by Angela, on April 13, 2016 at 8:32 AM
  • Waychox3
    Master September 2016
    Waychox3 ·
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    We are thinking something along the lines of "who promises to love and support these two in their marriage." I know it's a little rough but again, it's just a starting point.

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  • Kimi
    Master August 2016
    Kimi ·
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    Nothing has to be said. Just as you asked, he can escort you and then take a seat.

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  • MrsF2B
    VIP August 2016
    MrsF2B ·
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    Who will represent the bride's family, in love and support for her in this time of her marriage?

    We are also having the groom's father promise to do the same for him.

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  • Private User
    VIP August 2014
    Private User ·
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    My parents married almost 40 years ago. Nothing was asked or replied - it was merely a walked escort, kiss on cheek, and take seat.

    Frankly, I've never heard the "give" question asked. I think it's sexist and archaic- like women are property. Maybe it's the area we live in, maybe it's my family/social circle. I mentioned it to one officiant we talked to - in the hope she didn't use it - and she refuses to use it, even if asked.

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  • Katrina Rose
    VIP October 2016
    Katrina Rose ·
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    I don't think you need to say anything. He's escorting you, but you can definitely omit "giving away"

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  • Cattledogbride
    Devoted October 2019
    Cattledogbride ·
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    They dont have to say anything about "giving you away" you can talk with your officiant about what to do.

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  • BicycleBuiltForTwo
    Master September 2016
    BicycleBuiltForTwo ·
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    I don't think he needs to say anything. My parents are both escorting me, giving me a hug I assume, then finding their seats.

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  • amytherese
    Super July 2016
    amytherese ·
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    Your offiant might have suggestions also!

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  • Jenni
    VIP October 2016
    Jenni ·
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    We aren't planning on having him say anything. Basically dad will walk me down the aisle, shake FH's hand, and then sit down.

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  • patches
    Super June 2016
    patches ·
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    "Who welcomes FH into your family"?

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  • JoRocka
    Master September 2016
    JoRocka ·
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    I want to say 'who presents' was a thing? I can't remember. Lots of options though.

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  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
    OG Kathryn ·
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    This is in ours.

    Marriage is in itself a blessing. But doubly blessed is the couple who comes to the marriage altar with the approval and love of their families and friends. Who has the honor of presenting this woman to be married to this man?

    Answer: "On behalf of her loving family and friends, I do."

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  • Kelli
    Master September 2015
    Kelli ·
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    My dad just walked me, I kissed him, then he sat down. Nothing needs to be said.

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  • Botty
    Super July 2016
    Botty ·
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    Nothing will be said at ours (which is normal for a Jewish wedding). Both of our parents will walk us each in, I will prob kiss my parents and then FH meets me about halfway up the aisle and walks me the rest of the way.

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  • Angela
    Super June 2016
    Angela ·
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    My BIL is escorting me down and we are not having him "give me away". He will walk me down then have a seat with my sister.

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