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I couldn't agree more, if the family members take it wrong then that's on them, you and your FH do what is best for the both of you.

NO, no and heck no! Seriously? Wow I can't even believe that. Did you include guest numbers on your invitations/rsvp? Why would anyone have felt that this was ok to do?

Also, why are you increasing your guest count for the people others have invited that you don't even know. Leave your guest count at 50 and have those that extended the invitation tell their extra invitees that its going to be a no!

This is such a downer, so I am sorry you're dealing with this. I remember during my wedding planning process my mil tells my hubby and I that she doesn't know which of her co-workers to invite because she wants to make sure they see how nice our wedding was (not expensive but I put a lot of effort into making sure my guests had fun and enjoyed themselves, food, etc.). Thankfully my hubby spoke before I did because I don't know what would have come out, my mil claimed in other conversations that she didn't consider any of her co-workers friends just people she worked with and never invited any of them to her bdays or other parties she's thrown. My hubby immediately told her that our guest count was 100 and we had already chosen our 50 people each and that no one else could be added. Fil did the same thing with some long time neighbors of his, again hubby to the rescue.

Good Luck Mariana!! Don't let anyone over step your wishes on your day!

DO NOT give in. A wedding is a celebration of the two people getting married and THAT'S what it should be about. If you, FH and MIL are the ones paying for it, then you all get to set the rules. Anyone who invites people to YOUR wedding without an invite or your express permission is just rude, thoughtless and selfish. And honestly, I think it's okay to TELL them they are when they decide to be agressive with you about THEIR invites for others. Then ask them if they are going to make up the cost to have their friends included. Weddings are a serious outlay of cash and every person on the invite list adds to that cost. No one has the right to dictate to you how you spend your money by just adding people to your guest list. So, if you have people who want to throw a tantrum and tell you they won't come is soandso can't come too? Well, I say good riddance to them anyway. Do you really want that type of person at your wedding anyway?