Name change

If you already know you’re taking his last name, then what do you mean what should you do? Are you asking in terms of dropping your middle name as well??

View Quoted Comment Yes!! Sorry maybe i should edit the post. I’m not sure what i should make my middle name as i dislike both of mine. I also don’t want my middle name to be SO long.

View Quoted Comment You could just drop your middle name all together and go by your first name and your FH last name.. a lot of people don’t have a middle name..

I considered that but i also would really like to keep 3 names. I’m just extremely indecisive which is less difficult on paperwork/which i prefer. I considered (if this is a thing) to take his middle name (Allan) since it’s becoming more of a versatile name.

I’ve never heard of a bride taking her groom’s middle AND last name. You probably could do that, but if I were you, I’d keep my middle name and just take his last. Seems like it would be a lot less of a hassle to change just your last name vs middle and last names.

I don’t know where you live but one of my friends tried to change her name all around when she went to change her last name bc she regularly goes by her middle name. So she was going to drop her first name and use her middle name maiden name and his last name. Apparently changing your last name after you get married is a different process than changing your name completely and it was going to make things a lot more complicated! But maybe since your not changing anything with your first name you won’t have any issues. Just something to consider before you get set on a name and it’s not as easy to change as you thought! Also I love the name Lorelei! If I were you I would do Caitlin Lorelei Geeslin. Good luck!

If it were me I would keep my middle name and just take his last. I don’t like my middle name either (Mae Sarah) because it makes my name SO long. I just don’t use it. My name on my license is my first name first initial and last name. My little cousins middle name is Allan (Alivia Allen) because it’s a family name and it does work for girls and boys but maybe don’t take his middle name and save it for future children.

I think your middle name is just beautiful & very unique ❤️ I would personally keep that middle name, out of all other names you’re considering lol.
If you want to have 3 names & you don’t like your middle name being so long, as you said, maybe you could abbreviate it to Lora & add your FH last name.
I would definitely not take FH middle name. Taking his last name is enough lol & I would want to keep some of my name identity.
Keep in mind that depending on your state, you can drop your middle name and/or take FH last name with marriage. But changing your middle name in some states requires you to petition for name change in court.

I actually really like your middle name. I would just change the last name. Its much less of a hassle. Caitlin Lorelei Geeslin sounds pretty cool.

Paperwork and legally, it is easier to change your last name vs dropping/changing your middle name.

If I were you, I would just drop my old last and replace it with my new one. I mean how often do you use or write your middle name. I mean maybe your initial but I mean unless you are religiously using your middle name as well I wouldn't worry about it!

You could make up your own middle name. Might as well do it now while it's free instead of having to pay for it in 10 years. Maybe a name after a relative or in honor of someone you love, or something special to you. If you are Catholic you can use the name of your confirmation saint. You could even just throw in a name you like, even if there is no "meaning" behind it. You could choose a name that starts with an L or an S to pay homage to your current initials, or just dump everything all together

Is there a female relative that you are close with? You could choose their name as your new middle name. Or perhaps a female author or other role model. No one wants to consider the D word in the wedding planning process, but worst case scenario, you might not want to have two of his names.

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Have you decided what your name will be yet, Caitlin?