So the big day seemed to come so suddenly. We're getting married on the 23rd and my mind is spinning. It's nothing to do with my fiance - we've been together for 5 years and I absolutely know I want to spend the rest of my life with him. Yet, I'm experiencing full blown "wedding jitters", completely unexpectedly!
When we stared planning this covid-restricted wedding (we decided on something small vs waiting until next year), I thought for sure I was going to be one of the chillest brides EVER! I bought the cheapest dress I tried on, because it looked great and I didn't care about all the bells and whistles. I booked the first wedding site available in South Lake Tahoe and we just planned to book a reservation for 15-20 people at a restaurant for after. I didn't fuss over invitations, I made a free evite and just sent it along with a personal text to all our loved ones... We didn't even sign up for a registry, which I now fully regret - I was so grateful everyone could make it to Tahoe, I felt silly asking for gifts. It never occurred to me that people may actually WANT to bring you a gift! And I awkwardly figured that out once half our guests asked where we were registered at. Well, we ended up booking an actual venue despite having only 20 people. So with that came picking a menu and bar package, bringing decorations and flowers, getting a cake, making a music list to play and should we do a first dance? What about a father daughter dance? Oh no, should we have hired a dj?! Etc.. Also, I couldn't have cared less about a photographer in the beginning, but I ended up hiring a student on the cheap (he's really awesome) and suddenly now we have a whole shot list starting with getting ready in the morning, right through our grand exit from the reception. Oh, and that inexpensive, simple dress? Turns out the new one they ordered me didn't fit anything like the sample one I tried on at the store 🤷♀️. I had to take it in for two rounds of alterations and it still doesn't look how the sample one did in my photos. And I won't even go into family drama, but for what seems like such a simple, intimate wedding- there's been a f ton. Currently, it's 11pm on Sunday night, and we leave for Tahoe Tuesday morning. I'm soaking in the bath trying to soothe my nerves, but I wound up typing this whole thing instead lol. I tried packing tonight, but I was just so scatter brained! And since we're staying there for our honeymoon after, I have a ton to pack. Don't get me wrong, I'm super excited. Anxious and excited and frustrated with certain family members and worried about things going wrong, all at the same time. It's a crazy feeling. Anyway, if you made it this far thank you for letting me vent. And please God, tell me I'm not the only one who's gone though this?
I had a similar experience. I was a "chill bride" in terms of my expectations for the event and our wedding party, but I'm an anxious person. We've been together 10 years, so similar to your point - the feelings had nothing to do with my partner, and everything to do with me. I felt anxious for days before and on the morning, and honestly it could've ruined things if I let it. I woke at 4am my wedding day in a bit of a panic, got sick and was basically having a panic attack. My solution? A combo of the headspace app (any guided meditation will do - some can voice telling you to breathe), going on a walk alone outside in the fresh air (*great* choice), and watching Neverending Story (pick anything light and nostalgic). Keep drinking water, keep breathing and try to relax - I slept in 3 hour blocks prior to the wedding, but I'm a week out and back to 7 - 9 hours. Try to enjoy the day!
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Thank you! I'm also an anxious person, so this makes a lot of sense. We're loading up the car right now getting ready to leave and I'm feeling much more relaxed and excited! I'm debating bringing my yoga mat for the same reason as you, I think I may wake up early with anxiety and some yoga and meditation would be perfect to calm my nerves.