My wedding is RUINED!!!!!!!!

Why can't he get a passport? I know they can sometimes speed up the process in some cases. It will all work out! Maybe you can figure out how to get him a passport!

Awwwwww hon! NO NO NO, something might seem like it is working against you both BUT, PROVE it WRONG! I am so sorry about your original plans BUT do not give up! Please! I know you both can make this work and 'pull' it off. I have faith in you hon

When he was really sick , and out of work for almost two months he got behind in his child support . He tried to work something out with his kids mother/ ex wife , but she is not the nices person she hates me and hates that we are getting married. We have been together ten years in Oct. but she still cant get over that they are no longer married. I guess now she thinks that she stoped our wedding, but she could never do that we will just have to marry later in the states

Thank you so much Traci, that means alot. I have always belived that everything that happens is meant to happen ,and that there is a reason for it all. I truely belive that Charles is my soul mate, my kindred spirit, and that we will spend the rest of our life together.

What an evil woman! Everything will be okay, and you'll marry the man of your dreams! I would start calling the resort right away and see if there's a deal you could work out with them. Fate is not working against you! You're going to walk down the aisle and marry your soul mate one way or another, and that's what really counts!

Is there any legal options you and your FH have that would allow him to get a passport? He was behind in payments so they won't let him leave the country?? Here in Canada, if it's court ruled/decided, it automatically comes off your pay cheque (I believe) then if you miss payments they revoke your driver's license...I know it seems like everything is agaiast you..but you still have and love your FH right?? Just don't give up..Mayeb you will just have a local wedding, then everyone you love and hold dear will make it..then by the time yht passport is figured out..you can enjoy a awesome honeymoon!!! I'm a big believer in things happen for a reason and karma..THINK POSITIVE..POSITIVE WILL HAPPEN

Keep your chin up Ellen! You WILL marry the man of your dreams! Life is just throwing you a couple curve balls, what is meant to be will be! I am so sorry you are having to deal with this at this late date but it WILL be OK!

No we dont have any ltrouble with the law. Here in Philadelphia they take your drivers license and keep you from getting our passport if you owe over $2500 he is not that much over , but you have to pay it before you they give you your passport. After spending so much on our wedding and trip to Jamaica we wont have it in two weeks, we will just plan our wedding here in Philly. Nothing else matters to us as long as were together.Although had we known about this we would have worked it in our buget to have it paid off.

Oh Ellen...I am so sorry! I just got so sad reading what is going on with you. I wish there was a way they could rush it in Philly, but they seem to move slow for everything. I wish there was something I could do. It totally sucks for you both and I'm so sorry!

Thank you Jessica, people that work for the state tend to drag thier feet mainly Philly thats thier way to punish him for being late, but he is not one of those guys who is a dead beat who doent take care of his children. Charles is a wonderful father thats one of the many reasons that I love him so much, he has also helped me raise my two girls for the last ten years because thier father is one of those guys. I thank god for my FH every day.

I would start by calling the venue to see if they will take the money and transfer it to another date. Due to circumstances most venues will do that. Once you have that established start paying down your child support, so that way you can get you passport for the alternative date. Everything happens for a reason so just take a deep breath god will get you through this time. Good luck!

Ellen I agree that things happen for a reason...everything will work out just great, keep positive!

I too am a believer that everything happens for a reason. I also agree with the other post. See if you can move the date, payoff some support and try again. I can't help but think that there will be a bad storm on your wedding day..

You should just get married here and then when you are able to have the lovely wedding that you planned have that later, and then maybe all the people you wanted from the beginning will be able to be there.

When God is getting ready to bless you the devil attempts to keep you from your blessing. If you know this is the plan that God has for you than go for it. Try again to make your original plans work for you.

Lord Bless this couple that their plans will succeed in Jesus name. Amen. Gayle

Ellen I can't tell you how many times I hear that about paying child support in the city. My step-brother had the same issues with them. It is so frustrating...especially since they make no effort to help those that were out of work and couldn't pay. They need to make things easier for those good parents out there...like your FH.

Hun I apologize about everything that has happened. I know that the LORD works all things out that you might have an even better end, Read the story of Job for example. Anyways, I agree with other posts that said switch the date. Hurricane season is one of the worst seasons for outdoor wedding in the Caribbean, I'm from Florida so I know plus if you get in contact with your sibs and children and discuss the date with them I'm sure you all with be able to come up with a date that you'll love and everyone you love will be able to hold!!!! First start by praying,ask for some favor, then start making calls so that maybe you won't lose your money or time, to replanning!!

Ellen, my heart goes out to you and your FH. I can't even image going through anything like this. If you have an idea of when you can get things taken care of with your FH's passport situation then you should have an idea of when you guys can set a new date for your destination wedding. Make phone calls to see how soon you can get the passport once everything has been straightened out with the child support and try to work out something with your travel agent/Resort, particularly your travel agent to see if they can help with at least rescheduling your wedding to a later date. That way you can still have the wedding you bothe want but just at a later date. I just can't see that they would not be accommadable in some way. They should be able to make some type of accomodations for you as far a changing the date to a later date. I mean if everything is paid for then out of good customer service they should be able to accomodate you in some way. Everything will be ok! Good luck!

I know here in Canada if your out of work or your not making as much as your were you could always go to the courts again and they look at everything you are making and they make a new amount of what you need to pay in child support. The amount of child support you pay is base on what you make so if you are not making nothing or next to nothing than you can't get blood from a stone right. Maybe you should go to the courts and explain your case maybe leave out the fact that you were paying for a wedding because they might see that as oh you dont have money for your kids but you have money for a wedding. Plus they might look to you his FW income and make him pay still. Good Luck let me know what you decide.

Ellen, I have left you a message on your guest book. Let me know if we can help. We will help you plan it for FREE! I hate to see this happen to any couple. Good luck and keep your head up.