I mean, I knew it was a possibility. He had early onset Alzheimer's and congenitial heart failure and was in the ER last week needing oxygen and we saw a significant decline when he came out, much less alert, muttering and moaning, head down, clearly in pain. It was heartbreaking to watch. I mean, I was able to be there when he passed with my mom but still.
Coincidentally right around the time I started dating my FH, I came to terms with the fact that my dad and namesake might not make it to my wedding day. And I was mostly okay with that. As okay as you can be. I've had our daddy daughter dance picked out since I was four years old ("You're My Little Girl" by Go Fish if you're curious) and was able to dance with him to it at a church daddy daughter tea function and get that video taped so at least I'd have something. This was April of 2018.
Fast forward, proposal in December of 2018. Planning an October 2019 wedding. Not that far away. Maybe he'll actually make it. I get my hopes up again because he's still doing really well.
Last month and a half after moving into full time memory care (finally) he's really really declined and these complications just came up rather suddenly and now he's gone. His whole family, mother, father, sisters, brother, in-laws, are all coming to the wedding (yes, my grandparents had to watch their 55 year old son die of Alzheimer's I hate this disease). His family is all in Minnesota. We're in Arizona and so is the wedding. His sister for sure has already bought her plane ticket for the wedding, maybe others have too. I'm supposed to send out invitations this week. How do you deal with this????
The plan is to have some sort of wake or something here for my mom's side of the family and then cremate him and bring him to Minnesota for the funeral. He already has a grave plot at our family church next to my baby brother. There's no rush on the Minnesota funeral. I don't know what's going to happen with what's going on down here.
I don't want my wedding to feel like a wake! I can't reschedule - I'm a teacher and we picked the date based on when I get breaks. I don't want to push back. Besides, I can't afford to reschedule - it's half booked by now. Everything's almost done. What am I supposed to do?
I lost my maternal grandfather this time last year, my maternal grandmother a few years back, my oldest little brother is going to be at Basic and won't be able to get away because the recruiter lied to us which is apparently common practice so he won't be at the wedding, and now my dad. How am I supposed to handle this? Please help...