Hey all,
Long story short. My sister is 19, and when we got engaged back in February I asked her to be my MoH. She said yes. Few months later, she told me (after telling our mom), that she didn't feel like she could live up to the expectations of being my MoH while still being in school and working retail. I told her that was totally okay and I thanked her for being honest with me. Few more months, she informed me of wanting to shave her head and get a tattoo. I told her that was cool, but I would like for her to at least have a pixie cut for the wedding, and she promised me she would. Last month she shaved her head. She got her tattoo 2 weeks ago. It's gorgeous, and will be pretty when it is complete. I asked her how long she needs to let it heal, and when she plans on starting to grow her hair out. I didn't hear back. Talked to her again last night, she didn't say much. Talked to our mom this morning, and apparently my sister confessed to mom that she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid at all anymore because she "doesn't understand why her family would want her to change." Mom reminded her that she made a promise to me to grow her hair to pixie length for the wedding, then she can shave it all off again, but she just won't see it.
On a side note, I am rarely selfish, and I have been very supportive of my sister and getting her ink and shaving her head, getting piercings, going to school for art, etc. All I'm asking is for this one day, for her to have enough hair to hide the tattoo, and wear a dress. I'm even helping her pay for the dress.
My sister does not know that I know any of this, but I left her a voicemail asking her to call me when she gets off work. If she really doesn't want to be a bridesmaid anymore, is it weird to ask someone else to step in? The wedding is in October '18, but my shower is in January. What should I do?
