my sister is a bridezilla...

Girl I'd tell her how it is. She sounds ungrateful and you seem to be going far and beyond your MOH duties. Honestly you only have to buy the dress and show up without being wasted in my eyes. I would stop suggesting things and don't pay for anything else. Sorry she is acting like that.

What's funny is her and I have been best friends since we were little kids, we have been through hell and back with and for one another, what really hurts my feelings most is her looking at my Fiance and basically telling him I'm psycho and says he's a strong man for putting up with me...like I'm a horrible person...

I was talking to my boss last night and she told me she's being ungrateful...my sister listens to everyone elses thoughts on things and suggestions but when I suggest it, it's awful, or hideous...she even said that the colors I chose for my wedding (espresso, and windsor blue) were hideous...like she had a choice in what colors I use...

I've never liked her color combo but I've never said anything about it because it isn't my wedding, not my choice, I love her, she's my best and oldest friend but I think it's time her and I started to live our own lives and I just go my own way after her wedding is over...

You definitely shouldn't be funding her wedding. I'm not really sure what to say about how she is acting though. It's definitely not right. I would just go along with getting your dress and showing up, but maybe try to not be so involved with her planning since she is acting so nasty to you. Hopefully after her wedding, she will go back to how she was before.

I haven't really done much of the planning, just trying to throw ideas her way, she's been more and more upset since I started working and got even more upset because I got a promotion at work that caused a schedule change so I actually have to trade shifts in order to even be there the day of the wedding... I think I'm just going to mentally check out of this whole MOH thing until we get the fabric for our bridesmaids dresses, I have other things I have to do like work and save some money for my own wedding...

She flipped out over me trying to find two way stretch fabric for the bridesmaids dresses because she wanted to go to the only fabric store in our area herself and look at what they have even though I go in there almost every payday to buy craft supplies for my wedding and projects I'm doing to sell to make money for my wedding and told her that they don't have the fabric we need for the dresses, but found a wholesale site that gives discounts when you buy more than 6 yards of any fabric and gives us free shipping in 4-7 business days...

I would just stop trying to help with her wedding. You can still be her MOH, but it doesn't sound like she wants your suggestions/help, and it's only hurting your feelings as she keeps turning it down. I really don't understand why it would be necessary to cut ties after the wedding. I hate seeing relationships get ruined over wedding planning. It's sad.

WWLaura The wedding planning has just been the straw that's breaking this camels back, since I moved back to town from Anchorage she only ever calls me when she needs/wants something...and gets mad at me when I can't buy something for her because I have my own bills and expenses to take care of...I've been thinking of just cutting ties with her for awhile now just haven't because I more go over there to spend time with her kids who see me as their aunt...I don't think it would hurt her at all if I just suddenly stopped coming over until she really needed something...

Or let her plan her own wedding. And you plan your own.

Just stop making suggestions, and stop buying stuff!

She's definitely ungrateful. It looks like she only *needs* you to be her MOH so you can be her glitter fairy that does all the dirty work and foots the bill for it. Stop helping and stop paying for stuff. You have your own wedding to pay for. She should definitely understand that part.

She sounds like a brat. Perhaps she's jealous that you're also engaged. Perhaps you two have vastly different taste when it comes to wedding choices. Perhaps she has other things going on in her life and she's taking it out on you. Whatever the case, take a step back and don't help her with the planning from this point forward. You're still about to go see her kids when invited, but not every interaction with her needs to be about the wedding. Good luck

OGAubrey: I don't go over there nearly as often as I used to, before I moved to Anchorage, and just after I moved back I was single and spent a lot of time over there and things were different, and now that I'm happy and have a FH, she doesn't call me unless she needs something, it isn't a "hey come have coffee with me" anymore it's "will you buy me this, or that"...she's a stay at home mom, and have seen what she has going on in her life right now, I understand that planning a wedding is stressful but this has gone on for over a year, even before the whole wedding thing has been happening...and I think enough is enough, I'll be there for her through the wedding but I think I'm going to just go my own way after...

It sounds like your sister lacks tact, you don't have to like everyone's opinion or suggestion - but you don't have to be rude about the fact that you don't like it. Unfortunately you can't change her, the only thing in this scenario you can change is your ways; stop helping her, if she asks you to buy her things you can say no; you have no obligation to buy her anything.

Stop buying her stuff! The next time she loses her mind on you simply inform her that, "I have my own wedding to pay for too." Or, "I didn't think to help you with that since you think all my ideas are shitty."

She's an adult who is getting married and if she doesn't want the help she's asked for or is going to tear people down for it, then you absolutely don't need to do anything else and she can finish this up on her own.

Get your dress and show up on the big day and then start putting it all behind you and breathe. And maybe drink some wine

I don't understand why it's your job to buy stuff and probably best to stop there.

I consider myself to be a very blunt person, and if someone came to me with my ideas I wouldn't call them f*cking hideous.

I would just start telling her no if she asked you to do something that you can't do. If she gets mad, she gets mad. If she kicks you out, then that was her decision not yours.

Weddings can turn situations into insane ones and hopefully once the wedding stuff is over you and she can work things out, until then do what you need to do, just do your best.

Remember Stress can cause all kinds of emotions. Maybe you could suggest y'all doing something that is not wedding related and just hang out. She could need that.

And I would stop suggesting and spending remember it's not your wedding. Her taste will be very different from yours. I'm sorry she is being rude and the next time she is rude or hurts your feelings I'd say something, call her out but be nice about it.

She definitely sounds ungrateful. As other pps have said, take a step back and stop going above and beyond for a while. I'd also have a serious talk with her.

I'd stop with the help and let her do her own thing. If she asks for help, tell her that it may not be best since she hasn't really liked anything you suggested.

If you are that close, just tell her off too LOL. I know I would.

This is very simple. Stop suggesting and stop buying things for her. If she says anything just smile and say I guess you better get on that hmm?

She has a DF to plan her wedding with.

Just stop

Easy peasy.

And don't make excuses for her behavior. It obviously bothered you enough to post about it. I had a friend like that and when I stopped doing stuff for her she got strait after being a little butthurt initially.

Well I only have brothers. So the sister thing is not my area.

But hopefully you guys have a good foundation tell her to knock off the mother fucking attitude with you or you will steal all her clothes.

I wouldn't be throwing ideas her way that you plan to do at your wedding.