My sister and I are both engaged

Do you have a lot of out of town guests? If so, I'd space them out so people don't have to travel twice in a short period of time.

Congrats to both of you.

Of your mutual guest list, how many are OOT?

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I agree with CK. Plus that is a lot for people to buy twice the gifts pretty much at the same time.

It really depends on whether your guests and family will have to travel from far away, and on your family dynamics. Personally I don't like mixing events but you know better for your circumstances! Definitely ask your sister about this since it directly affects how she does her planning, too.

Happy planning and congrats!

Personally I would not want to share my bachelorette and shower with my sister...id rather wait and have my own moment.

I would space them out if you have any out of town/traveling guests, otherwise they may not make it.

Actually mostly all of our guest live in town with the exception of a few who probably will not come either way . I can't figure out how to change my avatar haha and I agree about the gift thing. One other deciding factor is if I do it later in the year we will have to wait a couple months to go on our honeymoon because I'm still in school.

I think you should have them separate. It's your day and as selfish as this sounds, you should take advantage of it. Let your sister have hers, and you have yours and keep it like that. Plus if it were me invited to both so close together, id be a little salty that I had to buy a new dress, travel, possibly spend on hotel, and give a gift twice in a month for the same family. Two completely different friends I'd be like they don't even know each other, no big deal. Plus. Your poor family. Give them a break. Weddings are a lot.

Can I ask what time of year you and your FH would like to get married if you could have any date you wanted? Is it fall, like the October date you listed? Or is it spring? None of the above? I think since you and your sister won't have lots of mutual guests that have to travel, you could plan your wedding a month or so after hers and most of your guests will be fine with it. Spacing it out a bit...even if just further into the summer could make things a little less hectic for you, your sister, and your parents, though. But you haven't told us if you have a preference for when you'd like to have your wedding! I think that matters in your decision.

I would space them out. That is a lot of money and time to ask of your guests all at once. When do you get out of school?

Iv been struggling with the date a lot. We live in a very hot place so I love the idea of October but I will be in my last semester of nursing school but October would give me space with my sister. The only reason I like summer is because I won't be in school so less stress and we can immediately go on our honeymoon . I get out of school December 2017 but I don't want a winter wedding and don't want to wait until spring.

How bad is August in your area? It would still have several months after your sister's wedding, but you'd be able to take a trip before the semester started.

A friend if mine had an October wedding while in grad school, and they waited to go on their honeymoon until she had a break. I'm sure there's a ton of couples that choose to leave immediately for their honeymoon, but I think there are plenty who choose to schedule it later. It wouldn't be that out of the ordinary for you to delay the honeymoon.

I think it would be helpful if you thought about whether the fall wedding or the immediate honeymoon was of more importance to you and your FH.

My sister is engaged as well c: our are a few months apart mostly because shes always wanted a fall wedding. But we also figured it be easier since we are eachother MOH

We're not going on our honeymoon right after the wedding. It's not uncommon for people to space the wedding and the honeymoon out. I think this is a discussion you should have with your sister. Figure out how you both would feel about sharing a bridal shower and a bachelorette. Do you guys have similar tastes? Personally, I've dreamed of a raunchy bachelorette party with a penis cake for decades, but my sister is a lot more uptight. If we shared a bach, we wouldn't both enjoy it.

What does your sister think? I would consult with her about it first.

My three female cousins (the four of us are very close in age) were all engaged and married around the same time. The middle sister got engaged first, then married, and youngest sister got engaged while middle sister was engaged. Youngest sister got married about 9 months after middle sister. Oldest sister got engaged while youngest sister was engaged and got married a little over a year after youngest sister. Three weddings in three years was perfect spacing. Any sooner and I think everyone would have been like ugh! Another wedding!

Thanks for all the advice (: I'm really excited for our honeymoon. August is super hot like over 100s ( we live in the desert) Sabrina w may I ask your wedding dates? My sister is super laid back and honestly does not care she will go with the flow with mostly whatever I choose .

My avatar is from a double wedding -- 2 best friends marrying 2 best friends. Only 2 other guests, very casual and laid back. Fun bunch of people!

I once worked in an office where all 3 secretaries got married within 6 mos. -- boss complained that all he heard was weddings, weddings, weddings, LOL.

Honestly I would think you would each want your own bachelorettes/showers. Not to mention if you guys are close, you can't enjoy being a part of each other's planning and process if you're simultaneously worrying about your own. Bonus that it would be better on your parents and guests wallets to not have them one after the other

Another vote for spacing them out - if you want October, do October! Have a little mini-moon right after and then save a real honeymoon for when you are out of school.