My second wedding...register for gifts???

We are nearing 50...and like you, have NO need for toasters, blenders, and linens. We have lived together for 2+ years...and merged two households that we already had to downsize because we had at least two of everything. We would LOVE the gift of cash, to offset some wedding expenses...and an etiquette specialist told me, to just NOT register, period. Most will give cash anyway...the few who don't will either do gift cards or pick a gift that they most likely would not choose from a registry, anyway. She also said, most of this travels by word of mouth...so when someone asks you directly, just tell them..."We are not registering as we really do not need anything household!" =)

Word of mouth that you aren't registering because you don't need anything is awesome, but you're going to have a few folks who insist on getting you an actual gift. For those folks, make a small registry somewhere like Macy's and add a few things in different price ranges you've been dying to get. Even if it's nothing but some crystal candle holders and a tea kettle. Put maybe ten items on there, and when you make your wedding website, explain to folks that your registry is limited because that's all you need. Most people will take the hint and give you cash or a gift card. Don't start a honeymoon registry, though. If you want your BM's to hint to family and friends that you'd really like contributions towards that, then that's awesome, but these registries are the same as outright asking someone for money, and they're tacky.

Ok I totally disagree with whoever this "ettiquette expert" was. If you told me you preferred cash you would get a card and nothing else cause that is just rude. Go register, no one says you have to register for traditional stuff unless you want too. We registered for legos, board games, a wine cooler, camping stuff etc. Register at a few different stores, we did BBB, Macy's and Target. Follow the rules that state you should have three times the number of gifts on your registry as the number of guests. We got one thing that was not on our registry and it was at least related to our registry. Register for everything from $10 items up to that expensive Kitchen Aid mixer or Wine cooler that you want but cant justify buying.

It's a second wedding for both of us too, and several people asked me to register because they feel strongly about getting us gifts. We registered for sheets and towels and a few other things, similar to what World of Whimsical said above. Once we got there, though we kept it small, registering was fun!

Mrs. Drakthal...I would NEVER tell someone that we prefer cash. It is "assumed" by not having a registry. For those who feel strongly about an actual gift, can choose such, or a gift card. The etiquette specialist was from TheKnot at a Bridal Stroll I attended. =)

This is my second marriage and we are registering for those that feel it necessary to buy is a traditional gift but we prefer cash since we already live together.

There are cash registries online now where people can donate money towards different items that you and your FH want. Maybe that will work for you.

I'd register; not for cash (I personally hate that, but it's just me) but you can register for anything from chainsaws to canoes to dog food.

Yes, register. I don't give cash at weddings. I like to buy presents, and registers are great for those who think like me. :-) Otherwise you might get something you don't want/need.

We registered even though its a 2nd marriage for both of us. He got cleaned out when his XW left, and I came in with absolutely nothing but clothes and some DVDs becaue my XH left me with nothing. He has hand-me-downs from yard sales and relatives. We absolutely need new pots and pans and other stuff. Yes, we (he) registered for some ridiculous things, so I'm not heartbroken if they don't get purchased. But the kitchen stuff is an absolute need for this foodie/amateur chef.