My punishment for trying to be a "chill, relaxed bride"

Anyone should know automatically not to wear white. That is ridiculous

All of your guests will think they look silly and probably whisper about them, so jokes on them

Yeah you don't wear white unless you are the bride. So that was a stupid choice. And her choosing a dress just like the bm...just why?

Totally agree! I knew my mind mom would wear something totally inappropriate so I told her nothing shorter than knee length. She has a habit of showing up to weddings in this super short (barely covers her cheeks) purple & black dress. I'm not worried about FMIL, she's conservative in her clothing. Though we may purchase her a special skirt suit for the wedding as a gift. She'd be able to wear it again to church (her & FFIL own a church, FFIL is a pastor).

I wouldn't have lied and said I loved their choices...BUT I probably would've let it go, too. Unfortunately, as others have said, guests will definitely be whispering about your FMIL.

Isn't it just universally understood that you don't where white to a wedding. That totally sucks! Hopefully they'll come to their senses!

Maybe someone else will have the good sense to say something??

Wow...how rude of her.

I just died a little in your honor reading what they picked out

I wouldn't chose a single photo with them wearing it! I would gladly show them my wedding album without any professional photos of them.

I tried to be easy going too, but they kept pushing and pushing so I told them any shade of gray or blue and that the bridesmaids would be wearing navy so darker blue would be better. My FMIL was so excited when I told her she could wear a tea length dress, which is funny because I'm having a backyard wedding and it will be 90 before the sun goes down.

After reading this I'm glad I gave them some guidelines. Do you have any other family members that might be able to bring up to them that their choices might not be appropriate?

I've also been really relaxed, FH's entire family has asked me what to wear and I tell them to wear whatever they want (Assuming they knew they shouldn't wear white). But, the other day FSIL and I were at FMIL's house and she said that a friend had let her borrow a dress for her MOG dress and it was white so she gave it back and bought a new one. FSIL (27yo btw) says "You can't wear white? The dress I was planning on wearing is white." Then, FMIL says "Oh you can wear white the parents just can't wear white." and I was just like "NO. NOBODY CAN WEAR WHITE"

Must be one of only like ten people who don't give a shit about white at a wedding. I would never do it some one else- but the amount of fucks I give about someone wearing it to my wedding... Let's just say, I give so few fucks I'd have to borrow some from you ladies.

I don't get the weird obsession with this rule.

Um you should really say something. Tactfully of course, but say something to both of them.

Shame on them for such foolishness!!!

I wouldn't be surprised if my future mother-in-law wears white she's mad at me because I told her to stop giving me ideas because she wants me to do everything with her and I want to do it with my mom she even forced me to try on her wedding dress and then told me I was that fat when she even said it wouldn't fit. She's even refusing to help me with paying for her part of the flowers, invatations, and the DJ since I can't even be respectful and listen to her.

@Hannah - it sounds like she might be trying to share some special moments with you (i.e. having you try her dress on). Maybe see if you can include her in a few small decisions so she feels part of the day. You don't want to start your marriage off on the wrong foot telling her to "stop giving you ideas".

Totally not cool she called you fat, though. That's just rude.

I strangely hope your dress is white and not ivory. I wouldn't want to look yellow in pictures. I'm with you. I told everyone i don't care. I secretly care too much. I try to act very free and low maintenance about everything.

Yea, I wouldnt care if someone else wore white. If it was a white ballgown.. that would be a problem lol

Sarah - the first thing that I thought when reading your post was that you WANTED them to dress to match your color scheme... since you showed it to them the bridal party outfits. Could it be possible that they thought you wanted them to match the color scheme of the wedding? As for your Dad's FW.. I think it could be an honest mistake! Otherwise... why go out of your way to give her those details as she was thinking about what to wear?

@Kristy I only told them those colors and what the wedding party was wearing because they specifically asked for it. I figured by doing that they would avoid rather than match. Never assume, I guess!

Hannah, I agree with Sarah. And I can tell you from experience, when my son got married last year I wanted to help any way I could. Unfortunately, my Ex husband & I were the bank. Her parents don't have much & ended up not contributing financially, no big deal, but when it came down to the DIY projects I really wanted to help & bond with my FDIL. I threw a couple's shower for them & made all the favors, her corsage/his boutineer & the decorations myself. When her mother saw everything she asked who did it all. I answered umm...that would be me! She looked at her daughter & said where was she when we were doing all this crap??? I answered, Just a phone call away! Never did they once ask me to help until the night before the wedding to set up the reception. So...go easy on FMIL....she's just trying to bond with you too!