From the day my fiance and I got engaged, it has been nothing but tears and heartache for me, and it's all been due to my passive-aggressive family...
For example, the day my fiance proposed, I called my mother to tell her the good news. The first thing to come out of her mouth was "Why didn't he wait to do it until I came home?" (My parents were in Alaska at that time) I had told her that I wasn't sure why, but I just wanted to tell her the good news. The second phone call that I had with her, I had asked her to join me to pick out my dress. She asked me if I was getting the dress from David's Bridal, and I had said no. I had found a smaller locally owned boutique that has beautiful dresses, most of which were at the same prices as the gowns at David's. The next thing to come out of her mouth was "Well, if you think I'm paying for a $6,000 wedding dress, you are crazy!" $6,000?? That's literally half of our budget. After convinces her that this wasn't the case, she "HUMPHED" and said she would be there. Absolutely ruined that day for me, even though it was supposed to be a good one.
So, the day I go to look for my dress, we start to look through a couple of different options, and started pulling gowns to try on. My mother and grandmother repeatedly tried to get me to try on a dress that practically looked like a table cloth, and I hated it. After telling them over and over again that I didn't like it, that I wouldn't be trying it on, my mother "HUMPHED" and walked away, not speaking to me again until the end of the session. THEN, as soon as I put on the gown that I knew was meant for me, my grandmother proceeded to tell me I needed to lose a few pounds to make it look half as decent. I went home that night with the dress that I knew I wanted, but because of their comments, I started to second guess myself... It took the convincing of my brutally honest bridesmaid, whom I love dearly, to convince me that the dress was in fact gorgeous, and that I was silly to think otherwise.
Other things have happened since then, but it gets me too emotional to even type out.
My family has continuously told me that I am over reacting, that I am just a crazy bridezilla, but their comments are just mean and uncalled for. I have felt no love since getting engaged, and I am this close to cutting them off from the planning all together, even my own mother.
What should I do? I don't want to jump the gun and end their participation in the planning process, but it has been nothing but tears since I started.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!