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Jasmine
Devoted August 2015

My mother just got engaged! .... & wants to have her wedding 2 weeks before mine!!... RANT! LONG POST

Jasmine, on January 23, 2015 at 11:19 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 30

SO, my dear sweet lovely, best friend in the world mother was asked by her boyfriend of a whole month who lives in Texas (we are in canada, nova scotia) to marry him. GREAT, couldn't be more excited for her, when you find someone, sometimes it does click that fast, fantastic! No problem with that,...

SO, my dear sweet lovely, best friend in the world mother was asked by her boyfriend of a whole month who lives in Texas (we are in canada, nova scotia) to marry him. GREAT, couldn't be more excited for her, when you find someone, sometimes it does click that fast, fantastic! No problem with that, but I'm 6 months until my wedding, she's HARDLY done anything to help me, despite me begging for help, and now she's all "I have an unlimited budget! I think were going to make it happen this summer, July maybe!"

I don't mean to come off a bitch. I really don't. I'm hurt that she obviously could care less about her oldest and first child to get married.. She doesn't get why I would feel stressed about it all..

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  • Babs
    Expert June 2015
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    I can see why you would feel hurt. Have you tried to talk to her to express your feelings? Is there a reason why she is getting married so quickly? Maybe she got all caught up in the excitement of it all (as we all know can happen) and just didn't think about how you would feel. I understand the money crunch side of things, I'm paying for our entire wedding and feel that pain too, June will be here in no time! As far as the 3 hour trip, before you cross it off your list, take a step back and take a deep breath. If you don't go to her wedding you will have to live with those feelings of regret for your entire life. I lost my mom several years ago. If I could go back and spend more time with her I would in a heart beat! I know you are upset right now, but this too is a special time for your mom as well. Don't let your hurt feelings get in the way of your relationship with your mom. I would strongly encourage you to talk to her. Best wishes to both of you!

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  • Rachel
    Super August 2015
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    I would be very upset and hurt. That is just ridiculous!! I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with this.

    I also second what Miss to Mrs said.

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
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    I am so sorry about this Smiley sad Your mom should be embarrassed about the way she is acting. Maybe when she comes down from cloud 9 she will realize how difficult a July wedding would actually be...

    Can just talk to her and tell her how hurt you are?

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  • MrsZ
    Super February 2015
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    Um...


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  • Susan
    Master March 2015
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    Maybe I have seen too many Dr Phil episodes, but the flashing lights and bells are going crazy. From another country, and only 1 month relationship proposal? Sounds very fishy to me. Anyhow, you have every right to be upset and hurt, even pissed. I am like SunshineJenn. It may fizzle long before July gets here.

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  • JanisV
    Super October 2015
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    Wow...I'm so sorry she's putting you through this hun...hopefully everyone is right and it'll fizzle before the summer. As a mother I'd NEVER do that..my child's happiness and their special moment would come first! Hell I even put our wedding on hold for my best friends daughter..she announced her wedding date and I didn't want to take from her special time.

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  • Chrissy
    VIP July 2015
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    I would be Pissed.

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  • Sherry
    Super July 2015
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    All of the above. Your Mom should know better, that is very inconsiderate, and if they have only been dating a month I would think she could hold off until a month or so after yours.

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  • Christine
    Master October 2015
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    SO sorry you're going through this! You have every right to be upset! It's just rude and hurtful.

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  • NewestHess
    Super May 2015
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    No I'd be pretty pissed to.

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