My Mother is Pissing me off so Bad!! I am ready to call the wedding off.

For what it's worth, majority of people are of the understanding of the following. Your mom is just worried that it will come of uncouth (good word for a Wednesday .

Hats

Etiquette considers it impolite for men to wear hats or other head coverings indoors. A hat may be worn in the corridors and elevator of a public building, but the hat should be removed upon entering a room. Men should always remove hats in places of worship, when sitting at a table for a formal meal, and when a national anthem is playing. These rules also apply to women if wearing unisex hats, such as baseball caps,[16] but do not apply to head coverings used due to religious beliefs, such as those worn by Sikhs and many orthodox Jewish men.

A man is not compelled to remove his hat if suffering from an illness which would cause embarrassment (e.g. a person suffering from hair loss due to cancer therapy). [17][18]

Traditionally (until the mid 1960s)[citation needed], most women considered it mandatory to wear

Have him wear it!!!!... screw your mom's old school edicate rules that were outdated in the 20's lol .

SPORT THE HAT MAN!!!! SPORT THE HAT!!!!

Mrs. Hubby I have to say that if he is more comfortable in a hat and that is what he is known for why change it. I think yes a wedding has certain etiquette and all but weddings now are so different. Personally I would never do a camo wedding but if that is what a bride chooses and is comfortable with who am I too judge. We chose blue as one of our colors because my husband has always worn blue its his fav color and so I wanted that incorporated. Our wedding was in a castle and was very classy but I said to the guys look I know you hate being in suits you wanna take the jacket and tie off after the ceremony feel free. Why make people be who they arent to please others. I think it is great you have no problem in your husband wearing a hat otherwise looking at your wedding photos you would probably be like wow he doesnt seem like himself.

Good to look at both sides of wedding etiquette - would you've ok if your guests didn't use proper etiquette? What if they wore jeans, didn't RSVP, brought 3 extra guests,didn't bring a gift? If you expect the guests to follow proper etiquette, then I think it's fair to expect the same from the hosts

Just for the dinner -idont think anyone wouldcare that

After that

Just want to throw my "hat" into the ring too and comment that I would find it a bit odd seeing a groom wearing a baseball cap at a black tie event. How formal is your wedding? Is he wearing a suit? Hats for men can be like a security blanket...they feel more comfortable in it. However, I do believe that the "once in a lifetime" aspect of weddings do dictate some element of etiquette. I understand your mother's point of view....she is worried about how it will "look" to others. If wearing the hat will alienate some of your guests, wouldn't you want to find a compromise? Why not take it off to eat? He can put it on right afterwards. And, although I'm surprised a hat can cause so much controversy, I understand that it is likely a symbol of some other more deep rooted issue that is just coming out as the great Hat Debate lol.

I think a lot of brides hate when guests don't follow the "proper" etiquette rules (see all the posts about RSVPs..lol). and it's bit of a double standard. Although we don't know the relationship with your Mom and what you have to deal with.