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Devoted May 2014

My mom is hijacking my wedding/rant/vent

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mara, on March 19, 2014 at 11:09 AM

My mom is helping pay for most of the wedding, I do feel like I should give her some say but my whole DJ list?! My mom asked to see my DJ list bc she wanted to know if she knew any of the songs. She didn't like my choices and started saying what songs I should choose. I told her I liked my song list and she said since she paid for the DJ and she has money she will just "pay him off" to play some songs she chooses bc "money talks". Now some of you may think she's kidding but my mom wasn't, trust me. Not to mention her song choices are terrible, and I included some songs she asked for. She also has been criticizing everything with the wedding from my colors (red, silver, black, white) to food choices. She honestly stresses me out more so then the actual wedding!!! Ugh thanks for letting me vent.

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Master May 2015
Allison · on March 19, 2014 at 2:46 PM
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My mom and i had a disagreement yesterday about where the photobooth should be.... when i told her where i wanted it (which was her pick at first) she said "you know i think i have to over-rule you on something...." i didnt know it was a "ruling" situation? I feel you, its only the beginning for me though
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Master May 2015
Allison · on March 19, 2014 at 2:47 PM
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@Koch bride- im pretty sure we have the same mom. mine is the same damn way!!!
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Master August 2014
A&G · on March 19, 2014 at 2:56 PM
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If it's a good DJ he will play music that works with the crowd dispite any list. You submit your list and let your mom submit a list of her own to the DJ. Let him work out which music to play that works best with the crowd.

Personally I'm not even going to do a DJ list because I don't want to restrict him to just what I like, I want everyone to enjoy the music.
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Just Said Yes September 2018
Ashlee · on July 12, 2018 at 3:43 PM
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I totally understand how you feel. I’ve spent so much time crying over this same situation. I didn’t ask for help, my mom offered and I naively (foolishly) accepted. My mom was never controlling growing up so I didn’t anticipate her being so critical about my choices or overbearing about what she wanted. I don’t think it should be about who pays, it should be about the couple, bottom line. I don’t understand why some parents feel the need to be so controlling just because they’re paying, especially if they know it’s making their child unhappy. It makes me sad to even think about, as if she loves the idea of a big event more than she loves me or the fact that I’ve found a really special guy to share my life with. If anyone has any tips on how to cope I’d appreciate it! The wedding is in two months, so too late to cancel now...
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