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Jazmine
Dedicated September 2020

My Mom Gave Her Save The Date to a Coworker

Jazmine, on November 15, 2019 at 11:36 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 24
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TITLE EDIT: MY MOM GAVE HER SAVE THE DATE TO A COWORKER! LOL


Ya'll! I am so stressed out and I seriously have my work cut out for me! My mother has been VERY trying since the very beginning of planning. I asked my mom in April who she would like to invite and told her because of the number of guest we can only invite family and very close family friends. She gave me 5 people who were placed on the guest list. Well, in September she started asking about the guest list which was weird because it was pretty much set. She mentions that she wants to invite 4 coworkers! I told her no and then she says she is really close with one coworker and told me she really wants to invite her. I reminded her that our guest list is already at 130 and some family members did even make the cut. I told her that the friend can be on the List C and if we have room I can think about it.


Well, being the narcissit that she is. She really didn't care about that. One day about two weeks ago she was at my house and let slip that she had given her friend the Save The Date that I had given to her for herself and my dad! I was, needless to say, livid! This lady is probably thinking that she is invited to my wedding AND I HAVE NEVER MET HER IN MY LIFE! My mom hasn't been at that job not even a year. This is one of the ways that she is stressing me out and I am so disgusted!

BTW, we're paying for the wedding ourselves (me and my fiance)

Sorry for the rant. Have a great weekend!

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Latest activity by Jazmine, on November 17, 2019 at 9:31 PM
  • Ingrid
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    Would you be ok with your mom paying for the guest?
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  • Caytlyn
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    Well, that subject is misleading...

    I would tell your mom, in the most blunt way possible, that this coworker will not be invited. She's the one who gave her the save the date, she can apologize to the coworker and deal with it.

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  • Jazmine
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    I honestly wouldn't be okay with that. We have a huge family and they aren't on the list, some family members that she even wanted on there. If she didn't offer money for those family members, I don't think it's right to offer money for this one person.

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  • Sabrina
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    My thoughts exactly on the subject....I thought "we HAVE got to come up with another acronym for the save the dates...." LOL

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  • Jazmine
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    HAHA! I didn't even realize that! YIKES!


    I agree totally!

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  • Jazmine
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    I know! FACE PALM!

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  • M
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    Marcia ·
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    I saw the title and was confused why you were telling people on WW about your mom’s sex life. Then I realized you meant Save the Date. Haha


    Yeah, what she did isn’t cool.
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  • Jazmine
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    I know, I know! I was just in a haze typing that I didn't even realize what I said!

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  • Gen
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    Honestly just don’t send them an invitation.


    If I were the coworker, I wouldn’t assume I was invited because I was handed a save the date by the bride’s mother. If the couple didn’t mail it to me directly, I wouldn’t think I was meant to be invited.
    Is it rude for someone to have received a save the date and not an invitation? Yes. But, to be fair, YOU didn’t send them a save the date. So she’s the one who’s being rude and would have to explain it to the coworker. Not you.
    Take a deep breath and repeat: “I am only responsible for myself.”
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  • Gen
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    Omg this was my instant reaction too hahahah
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  • Jazmine
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    You're absolutely right. I can't worry about everyone else and I just hope this lady isn't expecting an invitation based on what my mom tells her. My mom could be very convincing and knows how to change the narrative of a story.

    But, I'm not going to send an invite and I'll have people at the door as well. It's just so rude and inconsiderate.

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  • Ingrid
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    That's understandable, the only thing I can advise is stay firm. She feels she has a right to do what she's doing simply because she's your mom.
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  • Jennifer
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    I agree, don't invite her! I would also play it safe and not give your parents an invitation (you know they are coming), so mom can't go behind your back again!

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    My first thought, too! You're going to have to not give your parents an invitation because she will likely just pass that over to her co-worker as well! Sorry you're dealing with this stress, that is really uncool of your mom!
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  • Ashley
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    I would honestly tell your mom that she is no longer on List C and will not be invited to the wedding because of the stunt she pulled.

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  • Jazmine
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    I kinda want to do that, but I want to see how this plays out. She is definitely not invited anymore. I just would like to see how far my mom will go to get her way.

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  • Jazmine
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    Thank you. I feel the same way. Luckily the RSVP's are online only so we can control the seating arrangement.

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  • Ashley
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    I honestly think your mom would give her the actual invite too. Definitely keep us posted! Hoping everything works out!

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    I know she would. That's not even a question. I sure will.

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    OMG I feel you! We’re having a stateside DW and originally thought it would be small. We asked both sets of family for a must-include list. Started planning with a guest list of under 50 as both sides were confident not a lot would be able to make it. We’re now in the 100+ after adding all the uncles, aunts, cousins, and children my FH’s father has decided (6 months to wedding) he would invite by word of mouth. ughhh. We haven’t decided if the “word of mouth” group will get on our official list or not (we’re paying for it ourselves) but we’re leaning towards not having family strife and just sucking it up. At the end of the day, the bulk of the guest list will be people that we invited.

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