My MOH isn't attending my bachelorette party!

She is not required to attend anything other then the wedding. If she lives far away and cant afford three seperate trips and was honest about it you dont have any reason to complain other then being disapointed she wont be able to come.

Edit: my advice is if you really want her there offer to help cover the cost of a third trip into town.

Seriously? Why couldn't you do the shower and bachelorette party in one weekend?

I'm sorry, but I'm siding with her. I wouldn't want to spend three weekends out of four away from home. It's just too much.

I agree with you, and would be extremely frustrated.

I don't feel that it's too much to ask, especially since it is your MOH. Unless of course, she addressed this with you first.

10 hours roundtrip for 3 weekends is way too much to ask. I'm on your MOHs side.

And some people dont like these things. if someone didnt come if I was having one I wouldnt be mad. especially if they lived that far away!!

You probably need to adjust your expectations. Three weekends out of four in a single month is a lot to ask. If she is still planning to attend 2 events (travel 2 wknds in the same month), then that is great.

My MOH could not make the shower/bachelorette weekend. It is not that she wasn't excited for the wedding but she simply could not make it work. She was, however, right by my side at the wedding.

I may be biased in my opinion. I just had a weekend trip to visit friends of mine - 5 hours away. I just got home and am exhausted. I need downtime.

@mrsmark i hadn't thought of it that way ! That's 30 hours on the road in one month. Not to mention packing, potential time off from work or her own social life, as well as time spent in town for each event. That is a lot to ask of anyone!

I'm either calling troll or bridezilla.

Five hours is a long drive ... 10 hours both ways? Forget it; I'm siding with your MOH on this one. DH and I use to do long distance (as in a relationship) and we didn't even drive back in forth that many times in a month. We had school and other things (thank god for Skype). I'd say let it go - its not worth worrying about and at least she's being honest with you.

Yeah I couldn't do that in the same month. Not only is that expensive when it comes to gas, but it's exhausting. I visit the city I'm getting married in, 3.5 hours away about twice a month, and even that is really hard. Would you do it for her?

My MOH didn't attend mine. I wasn't mad. She's only less than 2 hours away, but it is still a haul and she had just prepared my shower the week before, is a full time mom of 3, full time student getting her masters and employed full time at a very demanding job. Sometimes, we have to take into consideration the circumstances surrounding their lives and choices regardless of the fact that it is one of the most important times of our lives. 5 hours is a very long trip to do 3 times.

That is a long ass drive to do 3 weekends out of a month. i think you need to back down and chill out and be thankful that she is awesome enough friend give you the time she can considering the distance between you two.

My MOH only lives 1.5 hours away and I made sure my shower/bachelorette were on the same day so she wouldn't need to travel more than once (or any of my other guests, even if it's only 20 mins)

You don't get 3 weekends to monopolize people's time in one month, that's just unreasonable. If you really wanted her there for all 3 it would've been in yours and her best interest to make sure they were spread out much further so she has some time in between.

Despite our lives and weekends mostly revolving around our upcoming weddings, it doesn't work that way for everyone attending or partaking in the wedding. They still have lives and obligations outside of our events and it's important to not lose sight of that.

Omg are you really being that demanding of your MOH? Seriously get over it. That's a long freaking trip and shouldn't be expected of anyone.

If it was me, I could not make all 3! I work every 3rd weekend at work and getting a trade is hard sometimes. That is seriously too much time and $$ to ask of her. Move shower and Bachelorette party to same weekend or expect her to skip it.

Showers and bach. parties are optional, be thankful you are getting both.

Attendance at these is also optional.

I'm going to side with your MOH. Asking her to make that 5h trip both ways, all three trips so close together, she has her own life as well that doesn't revolve around you and your wedding.

Just wow. So that's prob close to$80 a weekend to drive just in gas. I think the moh should be there but that's if they can. Ex of it being ok to be somewhat being mad is that she decided to get her hair fine or some asinine thing like that. this 5 hr one way drive is not one of those times to get mad. If anything be mad at yourself for not having the shower and bachelorette party on the same weekend if that is one of other two times of being there for you.

That is a lot of expenses for her and probably even a hassle to have to drive out 3 separate weekends 10 hours each! And I'd say your shower is more important and intimate than your bachelorette party. I'd be grateful with what she can do.

Sorry, but 3 five hour one-way trips in a month is way too much. She's probably looking at $200 in gas alone.

Mine moved to Texas so she's not coming to any of events prior to the wedding. I'm just happy she's able to afford a plane ticket to come to the actual wedding!