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My maid of honor won't come to my final dress fitting....

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Ashley, on April 25, 2014 at 10:42 PM

I had my second dress fitting tonight. I brought my mom and future mother in law with me and told my bridesmaids that they can come to the final fitting. The davids bridal I'm using only has fittings on either Wednesdays or Fridays, so I booked my final fitting for a Friday night so I don't have to take a day off work. I immediately let my bridesmaids know and my maid of honor said she can't come because she volunteers on Saturdays mornings and the evening appointment would get her home too late on Friday. I love that she volunteers, but I don't see the harm in getting home a little late on friday or missing one Saturday for something this important. My wedding day is a sunday so she wont even have to miss her volunteering then....This is when she has to learn how to bustle my dress. I'm really angry, but I can't tell if I'm right for feeling this way.

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Super August 2014
NoPurple · on April 26, 2014 at 2:41 AM
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Don't be angry. I don't think she's wrong for not being able to make it.
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Geysa · on April 26, 2014 at 8:41 AM
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If she can't make it just record it. I was there for my sisters and still recorded it to make sure I was doing it right.
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Jae · on April 26, 2014 at 8:48 AM
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It will be ok... I went to my first and final dress fitting alone because my family and bridesmaids all live 12 hours away from me. The seamstress showed me how the bustle is done up (it's a 6 point bustle) and I took notes so I can tell my MOH how to do it. It's ok if she's not there. I understand you might feel hurt but you can't force her to go. If she said she can't, it'll still be ok.
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Happy In Hawaii · on April 26, 2014 at 8:57 AM
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I'm with Jae, I don't have anyone here, I might just end up seeing if anyone I know that lives here that is also going to the wedding can go to figure out the bustle. For my sister I couldn't be there for her fitting, her other bridesmaid went with and then the two of us worked on her bustle together, wasn't too hard. She had a David's Bridal dress too.

As for wanting that special moment with your girls, you'll still get that the day of the wedding and in the grand scheme of things you won't really remember it compared to the actual day. I think you're being smart and listening to us and getting emotions under control...this close to your wedding it may be difficult to figure out what's important and what you can let go of. Hope the fitting goes well!
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GettingHitched · on April 26, 2014 at 9:00 AM
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I went to my dress fitting alone and thought nothing of it. You say that you can't understand how she would miss something so important. It's important for you, but not important to anyone else. Your dress will get bustled day of. No problem. :-)
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CeCe · on April 26, 2014 at 9:14 AM
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I had a bridesmaid come with me but that's because I live in a different state from any family members, bridesmaids, etc. so she was the one option and I called and made sure she could come.

It was the easiest thing in the world. I could have told them how to tie it and every single person would have understood and had it done in 5 minutes flat. You'll be fine!
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Jesse's Boo · on April 26, 2014 at 9:32 AM
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It's a bustle. It shouldn't be that complicated. I'm not making my girls go to any fittings.
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Anonymous · on April 26, 2014 at 10:01 AM
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You're being ridiculous. Anyone can bustle a gown. She shouldn't have to take off time for what she does to sit there and watch you get pinned up. What a terribly boring experience. I am not inviting any bridesmaids to my fittings because who in gods name wants to go to that. I don't even feel like doing it.
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