My maid of honor won't come to my final dress fitting....

Did you tell her this is when they will teach her how to specifically bustle your dress? How early does she get up to volunteer?

Think of it this way, you picked Friday because it works for your schedule. Your MOH also has a schedule she's trying to stick to. If you have someone else who can bustle your dress, I don't think it's that big of a deal. My MOH / sister lives out of town, so she's not going to my final dress fitting. My mom and another BM are going to see how to bustle my dress.

Honestly you should have checked with her first. You stated you choose Friday so you wouldn't have to take a day off work, but her volunteering could be just as important to her. From personal experience, I am an early to bed/early riser so I do not like being out late when I have to do something the next morning bc it seems to ruin the day. I don't think you should be mad at her bc she wasn't consulted. Hope you don't let this get to you.

Yes, I told her. I even sent all bridesmaids a detailed email about what's expected of them. She said she has to wake up at 6:30am to volunteer. My appointment is for 7pm so the latest she would get home is 10ish

While it might be the most important thing in your life, it probably isn't for your MOH. Everybody has their own schedule outside of the wedding. I agree with the other girls, you planned it based off of your schedule, not hers.

Between your mom and other bridesmaids I am sure you guys will have the bustle under control!

It is not worth being angry about.

You are wrong. She doesn't need to come to a fitting. Someone else can learn how to bustle your dress.

Let me clarify, my choices were Wednesday afternoons or Friday evenings. I picked Friday evenings because yes it does fit my schedule, but no one would be free of a Wednesday afternoon. I also tried to see if another day would work, but nothing else was available. I tried to push for a different day but davids bridal wont budge. I guess I should be mad at them for not having more days available.

10ish might not be late for you, but late for her. It's all relative. I wouldn't be too angry. Her life can't stop and at least she told you rather than not showing up.

Stephanie y and I have been on the same page a lot lately.

I wouldn't be to concerned. Anyone can do your bustle. I'm not inviting my MOH to any of fittings.

Edited: Damn autocorrect.

It's a bustle, not brain surgery. Anyone going with you to your final fitting can show her how to do it when you get the dress home, or even the day of. I was 1000 miles away when my sister had her final fitting and still managed to figure it out.

Thanks everyone. I needed to get my emotions under control. Everyone here is on the same page. Thanks for the advice!

I don't see why your fitting is more important than her volunteering. She likely has people depending on her there. Unless you checked with her first, you really shouldn't be mad. Someone else can help with your bustle, problem solved. None of my bridesmaids are going to my fittings.

Get over it and let one of your other bridesmaids learn your bustle.

I don't think she has to be there and I don't think you should expect her to. She has stuff going on so just let it go. It's nothing to be mad about

I totally agree with you. I just don't get peoples priorities sometimes. This is the only time she will ever get a chance to do this with you, so you would think she would be really looking forward to it. I know that YOUR wedding is probably not her biggest priority in life right now but it still seems strange to me.

The fact that you sent all your bridesmaids a "detailed email of what's expected of them" tells me that you're probably a bridezilla. I'm guessing your MOH is tired of your demands and has no desire to attend your fitting, especially since it interferes with her own life. Can't blame her.

I would like to know exactly what the email said, verbatim. Lol!

I just want to say (haven't read all the comments because my contacts hurt) that she does not have to come to the fitting. Anyone can learn to bustle your dress and she can learn later. It really isn't that complicated. No reason to be angry. I wouldn't invite anyone to the final fitting except my parents maybe because IMHO, that is a little odd.

Calm your breeches. It's not that big of a deal and she shouldn't be expected to be there. Whoever goes with you can do the bustle.