My maid of honor is too shy to say a speech...

I would just skip the speech entirely - honestly, they're pretty dull for the guests anyway. The fewer the better. One alternative would be for her to do a little toast just for you and the other bridesmaids while you are getting ready together. It's a happy memory for you, and low pressure for her.

My MOH didn't do a speech and I don't think anyone even noticed.

Let her off the hook - no one should ever be forced into public speaking. It's horrible for shy people. Anyone who *wants* to do a speech can. Ask your maids and see if anyone would like to do it.

I would ask one of the other bridesmaids to do it instead. If she's nervous, it's only going to be torture for her, and quite honestly, probably not very much fun for your guests (or you) to listen to either.

I can totally understand her though. I'm TERRIFIED to do the speech but I'm going to put on my big girl panties and just do it even though I really really don't want to but it's not about me. It's not something you can force her to do though.

Mine is too shy also. I would just let it go. But if you want a speech, I agree to just ask your next closest bridesmaid.

I'm in a similar situation where my sister (my MOH) already told me she's not doing a speech.

I'm ok with that. I'm going to ask my other BMs if they would like to say something, and if not I'm just going to leave it. I think the guests would prefer not having to sit through lots of speeches anyways.

Instead of not having one at all, have one of your more outgoing bridesmaids give the speech. Have the MOH help her write it so her thoughts/memories/sentiments are included.

Skip the speech. You don't need it. Maybe you can ask her to do one at the rehearsal dinner and it will be less people if you really want her to do it.

There's no need for a toast from your MOH, I'm not making mine do it because I'm having tons of family do toasts instead (my parents, grandparents, and aunt/uncle).

Mine isn't doing one, at my request. I was MOH at hers and didn't do one. Maybe we are old fashioned but in our circles, MOH speeches aren't done. Just...no.

My girls are the same way. I think we will probably skip all the speeches all together. IF we have any it will be from my brother who is a groomsman and only if he wants to.

We did all of our speeches at the RD, since generally it's only close family and wedding party who enjoy them anyway.

Definitely don't force her. She would be anxious all day and possibly get too drunk-you wouldn't want her doing a drunk speech anyways...

If another BM would like to do one, sure. But speeches are not necessary. Just our best man and MOH did a speech. My MOH sang a song for us for her speech. It was amazeballs!

Skip the speech! I have been to two weddings where the MoH got plastered because she was afraid to give a profound speech so they drunkenly babbled on about nothing. In both cases afterwards they spent the rest of the night in the bathrooms sicker than dogs.

My MOH (and sister) has told me she doesn't want to give a speech either. I am fine with that, as I hate public speaking as well! One of my BMs will instead do a "toast" to us. I love that idea!

I told my MOH (FSIL) she didn't have to give a speech. Speech are my least favorite part of weddings and really are just a yawn fest for guests. My dad is giving a toast and that's all we're having.

I agree to skip it....MOST weddings I shoot, don't do them either. In fact over the years I've noticed a decline. You're fine.

I was best man in a friend's wedding, I ran out of stuff to say, so I closed by looking at the bride and saying, Thanks Danielle, for loving David in ways I just can't. The one time I've heard people laugh the whole day, lol.

I think it's fine either way but I recently went to a wedding where all of the bridesmaids put together a group speech, each taking a piece or adding in bits throughout. Maybe she would feel more comfortable if it were more of a group effort.

Mine has a fear of public speaking so we are just doing a best man speech.