My Maid of honor got engaged

Hi Carrie! I am sorry to hear about this! It is definitely normal to feel slightly upset, as you all had plans to initially shop for your dress. However, try not to let it bother you too much; just have a sitdown with her to rework the situation to see if you all can still collaborate!

I hope everything works out fine! Best of luck!

I think this is an exciting time for both of you, no reason you can't share it a little.

You get one day. It's not like trying on dresses you really need more then someone giving an opinion...which you can do while also trying on dresses.

I would have been so excited to dress shop WITH my best friend! I think you should re plan, do it again, if she hasn't found a dress and make it a super fun girls day bonding experience! Once you get past the upset feelings you may have, I think both of you will have so much fun planning together!

I would have been upset too. I think dress shopping together could be fun, but it sounds like she sprung it on you and maybe hijacked the appointment.

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I agree! I'm sorry she kind of made the day about her, but there's no reason you both can't celebrate this exciting time in unison!

Try and focus on how excited you would be for your best friend! Maybe she chose a bad time to tell you, BUT if she had told you at any other time how excited would you be!

I think it's a bit rude that your friend tried on dresses at your appointment. Maybe if she had asked beforehand but I would be annoyed. I would probably just let it go though.

It would be one thing if you guys had planned on dress shopping at the same appointment, but I’d be annoyed if it was sprung on me on the day of. Obviously it’s great that she is engaged as well, but I’d be irked that she couldn’t find another day to shop for her dress and let you have yours.

I definitely get why you're disappointed that it went from a day you were hoping to find your wedding dress to a day that became a bit about her. It's ok to be slightly hurt by this. However, as others have said its time to re-plan either offer to go with her dress shopping for HER or make appointments together and bring other friends to help you with opinions.

One of my best friends spent half my bach party (which was two days) talking about how her bf was visiting her parents and she thought he may propose soon. Honestly, it didn't bother me but it did bother my MOH/sister that she made it about her. These things just happen.

I think shopping together should be and could be fun. Maybe plan another day and then going into it you will both know expectations

Yeah, I don’t think that was nice! I get that she too is excited about her engagement but this was your appointment & she should have put you 1st and focused on you as a Best Friend & scheduled another day for herself & asked you to come with. Even if she looked at a few dresses to have something in mind but not take away from you. True Good friends would have been more considerate that this day was planned out for you not steal your focus. It can be fun to do things together now that she’s getting married too but it could have been another day for her & something like shoe & jewelry shopping together for both weddings. Just my opinion.

I agree that she hijacked your appointment and I can understand why you'd be upset. However, I would be happy for your friend and make another appointment for yourself. If she already chose her dress, then she'll be able to focus solely on you next time. Or, maybe ask someone else to go with you instead.

I think being upset is totally normal. Your MOH is supposed to be concentrating on you and your big day. I myself would be upset.

I think you are right to be upset about how she took over your appointment but don't see the harm in planning at the same time.

I actually think what she did was really rude and inconsiderate. The appointment was for you and you were expecting her to help you. She should have just made an appointment for herself another day. But I guess she was just really excited and maybe not thinking straight, I am sure she didn’t mean to make you upset so I guess try to not to hold it against her. But maybe you can go with someone else next time, unless she’s already found her dress and won’t want to shop for herself again??

Honestly I'd just be happy she still made it to the appointment the day she got engaged. That's a big milestone and she probably just got caught up in the moment. Personally I would have been surprised if she had been able to focus on someone else's wedding rather than her own that day. Schedule another appointment and go into it with different expectations, planning together can still be a lot of fun

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I agree with this comment. If you both made the appointment for BOTH it would have been different.

No I would be very upset about it too.

Personally I would be upset ad well, ots so hard to find that line of being bappy for your friend and being kinda hurt, especally with something as exciting as trying on wedding dresses for the first time. Hang in there and try not to let it get the best of you. But maybe being up to her that you think it woukd be best if you both had seperate appointments for things like that, so you can both give feedback and enjoy your own specail moment.

View Quoted Comment Agreed! Shes allowed to be excited of course and you be excited for her but didnt need to steal that day from you. Id be upset too