My Maid of Honor doesn't want to plan the bachelorette party I want

Just say it to her. being honest with friends is what people do.

I would just let her know that you are ending the night there and if she's uncomfortable you totally understand if she leaves early.

I would just plan it yourself. It's not like it would take more than 30 minutes to do.

Yeah, don't plan your own bachelorette party. What does she want to do? Is she set on a Vegas weekend?

If she's not comfortable going to that show, you can't force it. I would just tell her that you will be going to the show along with anyone else who wants to go. If she doesn't want to go, she doesn't have to. She can go to dinner and then leave.

No she doesn't want to go to Vegas because of money constraints. She just wants to go to a club in Hollywood. I'm 30 and engaged, I don't need the club scene anymore.

I would tell her that you're not a fan of the club scene and you'd prefer to just do dinner. Go to the male revue another time.

Plan it yourself. When she gets married, she can plan her own and do whatever she wants. And to answer your direct question, just tell her up front. She certainly didn't have a problem being up front with you.

Just be honest with her and tell it to her straight. Do want you want to do...if she needs to leave early, so be it. Are any of your BMs able to help with the planning?

Wait, in your original post you said she wants Vegas and you want a spot in Hollywood, now she doesnt want Vegas due to money and wants a club in Hollywood? i'm lost.

No joke.. I had the same problem. I wanted to go to hollywood of men and my MOH said that isn't my thing. I decided to plan my bachelorette the way I wanted and she didn't even go. Do whatever you want to do. It is your bachelorette and your celebration. Talk to her and explain that it is your one and only bachelorette and this is what you want to do and take it from there

Do what you'd like to do. just be polite but firm, thats what ive had to do with my girls. if she doesnt like the male revue then she can accompany you at the stuff before hand and then skip the revue part. sucks to leave someone out but you deserve fun, not being dragged to places you dont like

My MOH wanted to do a weekend in the mountains in a cabin with all of my girls b/c she does not like male strippers. I did not even have to tell her, the bridesmaid told her this was not her wedding before I could open my mouth lol. Ummm there is no way I am spending my last weekend as a single female in a cabin in the WINTER with all girls. Can't do it lol.

Leila L, DO NOT PLAN YOUR OWN PARTY! If she does not want to do what you want, politely tell her you will ask someone else to plan the party you want.

Thank you all for your comments. I actually have 2 maid of honors and the other one told her it's my wedding and were going to plan what I want. We will see if she comes. I hope she does, despite her intrusive opinions, I actually still love her.