My maid of honor decided to have her wedding the week after mine...

You get one day. She get's one day.

If you are worried about being able to afford her wedding, start putting money aside now. If you want to make sure you can attend, don't plan your honeymoon for right after your wedding.

While I agree this is a bit odd, you get one day, as does she. If you want to be at her wedding, make sure you either are back from your honeymoon by then or go after her wedding. If you are concerned about her affording a BM dress make sure to chose something affordable. .You can not control which friends chose her wedding to attend and which friends choose yours. You can't control what she does for her wedding, the only thing you can control is what you do. If your wedding is already planned, congratulate her and keep going with your plans.

Perhaps there are special circumstances that led her to chose that day-- maybe there was a cancellation and they were offered a good price. Maybe the day is a special day for her family or for her fiance's family.

Hi! I totally understand your frustration. Unfortunately you won't get a lot of sympathy here-I've posted similar things (about my younger brother trying to get married 2 months before me when we got engaged 4 months before them and feeling similarly to how you feel) and got a lot of really negative responses. Have you tried talking to her about it? Is there a reason why she has to do it one week after you? That seems a little inconsiderate to me although if I were in your shoes I may understand if there was a pressing reason why it needed to happen.

It does seem a little unnecessary for her to do that, but since nothing can be done now, see the positives in it! You might be able to borrow things like decorations from each other, search for vendors together, and overall just be an understanding person to talk to about similar excitement and problems that might arise.

We have friends getting married two or three weeks after us, and recently got together for dinner with them. Although our other friends and family have been so supportive, it was really nice to share ideas and stories with someone in the same position as us.

In this case, there is nothing that you can do about her date. She set it and that is that. She knew your wedding was the week before and set that date anyway.

What I would suggest is that you make sure you will be available for hers...if not, let her know now and do not take a position that you cannot be there for...physically, mentally or financially. If you will still be on your honeymoon on her wedding date...let her know now. If you cannot be mentally and physically on board for the needs of a maid, make sure she knows. Also, it might be a tough conversation, but make sure now she will be on board for your day as well. These things need to be made clear. Otherwise, we will be reading your posts on how your crappy MOH let her own wedding ruin yours. No offense, but get this all cleared up now. It might come off abrupt...borderline rude, but you will be thankful you did.

I think its pretty rude that she chose the week immediately after your wedding and didn't even give you an explanation. Yes - you only get "one day" but the timing is terrible and makes things very difficult for the two of you. However stressing over it wont do either one of you any good. So just roll with the punches - it will all work out.

I have a coworker and her absolute best friend had her wedding the day AFTER hers! This happened before I knew her but it sounds like they tag teamed a ton of wedding decor that can be easily shared (chair covers, votives, etc.) and mostly enjoyed the planning process together. She says it was an absolutely crazy weekend but laughs looking back on it.

I think you might be able to make the best of it once you decide on how to handle finances and logistics. It's early enough to plan for it and so I would try and do that.

You get a day, she gets a day. I agree with previous poster that you should make sure she knows you may not be available for her wedding as a bridesmaid or other role. Let it go - she could have picked the weekend before!

Woof. I am going to go against the grain here, as I have seen people become inflamed about posts regarding "life events" occurring near your wedding date after you've told them months in advance. But I would feel weird about it. WHY does it have to be a week after yours? If she is MOH she clearly knows how much crap goes into planning stuff. She cannot on a normal planet expect you to be a MOH or BM and have the energy and financial wherewithal to deal with her wedding. Seems a bit off.

I will get heat for what I really want to say, so for now, I will say - all you can do is be supportive. If it bothers you a LOT then have a convo with her about how you feel . If she is a good friend, she should understand your concerns. If not, drop her, invite her as a guest, be willing to lose the level of friendship you have currently, and focus on your day.