Hi everyone,
A bit of a long post...
I'm so frustrated and almost saddened by the events that have taken place in me and fh's life. For the past few months, FH's eldest aunt has practically been begging us to help with the wedding and randomly sent us some money last Thursday to go towards our venue. After a conversation with her, we felt good to accept this help. She had previously offered to pay for our honeymoon, but in regards to how she's behaving about the location and such, we've rejected it and she's still insisting we go on HER vacation. Anyhow. After she sent the money, my FH's other two aunts have flat out refused to attend our wedding (but sent early wedding gifts) citing they can't be in the same room as FH's mom. According to them, she's volatile, extremely toxic, warrish and can't keep her thoughts to herself. We were a bit bothered by this, but hey? What can we do, wring their necks and make them come? Not on our list of tasks.
Since his two aunts have rejected, his eldest aunt has been on a smear campaign, sending us volatile messages about FH's mom, citing that she's not helping with the wedding, yet has caused 2 of her sisters not to attend their nephew's wedding. Eldest aunt is furious. She usually messages me, saying that my FH needs to stop acting like a "poor little lost boy" and have an adult convo with his mom about her disgusting behavior towards people. Furthermore, eldest aunt is basically demanding we ask members of FH's dad's side of the family for help... we didn't even ask anyone for anything. Not sure why she's so insistent on this. Claims that FH has been "trained by his mother to ask for money from the same people." Who says that about her nephew? Furthermore anything my FH wants, he gets on his OWN. Eldest aunt clearly decides to ignore the fact that she basically threw the money at us, begging to help in some way. I was so bothered and disgusted.
Guess what the lady did next? CALLED FH'S GRANDFATHER (dad's side) (whom he hasn't seen in 4 years and barely has a relationship with) telling him that she's given us money, and how he needs to contribute something towards our wedding. Can you imagine how crappy that made us look? OMG like his grandpa probably didn't even know we were getting married. It makes me sick that she's essentially calling people on our behalf begging for donations. How disgusting with that? I told FH he needs to put an end to this now.
Next, eldest aunt sent out an email to me and FH that features an extremely long text conversation between herself and FH's mom. If I were to even get into a little bit of what was displayed in that email, I might actually get banned from Wedding Wire forever.. it's that bad. But essentially eldest aunt seems to want to do anything to get fh's mom not to attend our wedding. She has threatened me and told me straight up "Andrea, I'm telling you from now, if fh's mom so much as looks at me in a certain way at your wedding and tries to talk to me, I am going to call the cops." Great, now I have to worry about cops potentially being called at my wedding.
Eldest aunt is so messed up when it comes to money. Literally trying to hijack our wedding. I don't know what to do. I want to give her back the money that she gave us. FH intends on speaking with her very soon, but he's so shaken up and disgusting by these events, that he wants to give himself a few days to collect himself and clear his mind. I suppose I just wanted to rant and get your opinions. Anything helps, thank you
